"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to close the deal on the first date?

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SUPER SHY FRIEK

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So I am going out this thursday or friday with a gal for a cup of coffee. I am wondering what should the topics be about, what would be good jokes that would make her laugh her a ss out, and how should I close the date (ex. with a kiss, hand touch and should I make any insinuation/invitation back to my apt). Thank you very much for your attention!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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What do you mean by "close the deal?" What are you attempting to achieve?
 
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Venue change...coffee dates always suck...after coffee do a quick venue change someplace else...then another, get her to think of you in various settings..

Don't go with just jokes...think of funny stories...stories tell something about you at the same time..

Kino, Kino, Kino

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