"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to choose a restaurant

Tortendieb

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Okay guys, I'm aware that dinner usually is not the best choice, but in this case we've already had a coffee date, an action date and then she called me and asked me out for dinner :eek:

I was busy that time, and since she didn't follow up I thought I'd ask her out to dinner instead. Can't really think of anything else, and she's already hinted she'd prefer dinner over drinks... Anyway I've actually never done a dinner date before, sounds weird I know :D But yeah feels like a good time to try it.

The problem: what kind of restaurant would I choose? I mean not a cheap kebab stand (stuff I usually eat), but all the restaurants that look good for dating are super expensive! I can easily afford it, but maybe I'd send the wrong signal by taking her to an expensive place?

Actually I'd like to just ask her what she would like, I think she'd definitely know something. But that would be pretty lame, no? To ask her out and not have a plan myself :D

Any advice? What would you pick? Or can I ask her to decide? Attraction is fine, I'm sure it would be a nice evening.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pair A Dice

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1. Definitely choose a place close to a few other locations so you can bounce there if the date is going well and you want to extend it.

2. You can ask her opinion, but it is ultimately your decision. Take control. Don't be indecisive.

3. Have fun! As long as you are enjoying yourselves, it doesn't matter where you eat, as long as she is not allergic.
 

grayclif

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This would depend on where you live but I like early evening dates at an outdoor restaurant on the coast. Because its early and warm there is a good chance she will wear fewer clothes. So if the date doesn't go well I'll at least have something good to look at.
 
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