How to check your woman?

[CornbreadFed]

No matter what girl you date, there’s going to be a time where she disrespects you. I was in a situation last night at a club crawl type scenario and I basically said we are going home because she was drunk and playing mind games that could've just devolved into a worst situation. Furthermore, we both knew the night was going to be bad because it involved catching up with toxic friends that advised her not to do. Either way, last night was the worst I had ever seen her intoxicated wise and it ended in a disaster. We get back, she starts pulling the drunk girl tears & flailing on the floor/drunk puking bs. The next morning, she is in a death state from being extremely hungover, but we still have make-up sex and I dropped her off at her place to just go to sleep for the rest of the day.

I plan to address my concerns when she is in a better condition, but what do y'all do to check your woman being disrespectful? I personally think the sit back passive frame behavior is stupid and doesn't solve shvt especially when it involves a girl that is above a plate status.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Binge drinking and chicks that are alcoholics are no go for me.

It signaled the beginning of the end of what I consider to be the most significant relationship I’ve ever had with anyone.

 

[soulforge]

No matter what girl you date, there’s going to be a time where she disrespects you. I was in a situation last night at a club crawl type scenario and I basically said we are going home because she was drunk and playing mind games that could've just devolved into a worst situation. Furthermore, we both knew the night was going to be bad because it involved catching up with toxic friends that advised her not to do. Either way, last night was the worst I had ever seen her intoxicated wise and it ended in a disaster. We get back, she starts pulling the drunk girl tears & flailing on the floor/drunk puking bs. The next morning, she is in a death state from being extremely hungover, but we still have make-up sex and I dropped her off at her place to just go to sleep for the rest of the day.

I plan to address my concerns when she is in a better condition, but what do y'all do to check your woman being disrespectful? I personally think the sit back passive frame behavior is stupid and doesn't solve shvt especially when it involves a girl that is above a plate status.

Have a conversation with her, be calm and rational. Watch closely how she reacts to your concerns?

If she reacts in a combative/challenging way? Bro expect more of this type of behaviour.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Binge drinking and chicks that are alcoholics are no go for me.

It signaled the beginning of the end of what I consider to be the most significant relationship I’ve ever had with anyone.

This is the first time in over a year that I've known her get this bad. I blame it on this group because she never has anything good to say about them nor do I and nothing good ever comes out of hanging out with them.

Have a conversation with her, be calm and rational. Watch closely how she reacts to your concerns?

If she reacts in a combative/challenging way? Bro expect more of this type of behaviour.

Basically my game plan lol.

 

[Dr.Suave]

No matter what girl you date, there’s going to be a time where she disrespects you. I was in a situation last night at a club crawl type scenario and I basically said we are going home because she was drunk and playing mind games that could've just devolved into a worst situation. Furthermore, we both knew the night was going to be bad because it involved catching up with toxic friends that advised her not to do. Either way, last night was the worst I had ever seen her intoxicated wise and it ended in a disaster. We get back, she starts pulling the drunk girl tears & flailing on the floor/drunk puking bs. The next morning, she is in a death state from being extremely hungover, but we still have make-up sex and I dropped her off at her place to just go to sleep for the rest of the day.

I plan to address my concerns when she is in a better condition, but what do y'all do to check your woman being disrespectful? I personally think the sit back passive frame behavior is stupid and doesn't solve shvt especially when it involves a girl that is above a plate status.

D@mn, bro. Was the make up sex worth going through all that?

 

[johnrambo]

Either way, last night was the worst I had ever seen her intoxicated wise and it ended in a disaster. We get back, she starts pulling the drunk girl tears & flailing on the floor/drunk puking bs. The next morning, she is in a death state from being extremely hungover, but we still have make-up sex and I dropped her off at her place to just go to sleep for the rest of the day.

Curious, does she get drunk on her own without you? I am asking because she may just go home with another guy while drunk. Being drunk is an excuse to do anything

 

[soulforge]

Curious, does she get drunk on her own without you? I am asking because she may just go home with another guy while drunk. Being drunk is an excuse to do anything

Getting very drunk is impulsive behaviour.

Jumping onto Tyrone's dik is also impulsive behaviour lol

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

My ltr and I always traveled together at least monthly and we’d go out to eat and drink and keep a light buzz. This went on for years. Towards the end she one time got super sloppy and fell down in public and it broke my back.

If I’m drinking and even start to feel slightly unbalanced I stop dead and switch to water. Ugh can’t stand drunks.

Like grow the frak up, it’s embarrassing.

 

[CornbreadFed]

D@mn, bro. Was the make up sex worth going through all that?

NGL, I probably would've cheated if I didn't get any this morning after going through all that lol.

Curious, does she get drunk on her own without you? I am asking because she may just go home with another guy while drunk. Being drunk is an excuse to do anything

No lol, she usually maintains good control over her impulses. It's this toxic HS friend group that causes her to drift towards bs for some reason.

 

[Learning Curve]

Remove her from that toxic environment. As long as she respects you she will go along with it.

Also, state word by word what you don't want again to happen.

Women love drama. Some drama is acceptable in a relationship to spike the flame sort of to speak if the relationship becomes stagnated.

But, again going drunk mode and becoming a mess is no-no-no.

As long as she is invested and cares she will never do that again.

 

[RazorRambo24]

If I'm with a girl and going out, there's no way she's getting plastered to that point. I have too much self respect to allow that. I mean most girls I'm with know how to handle their alcohol. The ones that didn't --aren't here anymore.

I think you just need to evaluate why or how things are getting to that point. If it's happening right in front of your eyes, something aint right.

 

[Gamisch]

The tales of the bluepilled man/redpill hater huh?

I would've either walked away or kicked her azz into a cap and went home. And bro YIKES, for sleeping with a woman who just puked...have some damn morals man. I'd let her sleep and leave let her recover, but that's me.

This never happened to me. Had an ex when i was like 17 who got drunk too often to my liking and immediately dumped that h0e.

Women like this have no control, and she WILL cheat on you. On top of that she basically ruins YOUR reputation as well..

Time to FINALLY swallow that long overdue redpill...

 

[CornbreadFed]

I would've either walked away or kicked her azz into a cap and went home. And bro YIKES, for sleeping with a woman who just puked...have some damn morals man. I'd let her sleep and leave let her recover, but that's me.

It happened the morning after, and I made her take mouth wash lol

Time to FINALLY swallow that long overdue redpill...

I'm an ex red pill, and my GF can go and blow every dvck in my city in front of my face and I will still never go back to that shvt lol

 

[CornbreadFed]

If I'm with a girl and going out, there's no way she's getting plastered to that point. I have too much self respect to allow that. I mean most girls I'm with know how to handle their alcohol. The ones that didn't --aren't here anymore.

I think you just need to evaluate why or how things are getting to that point. If it's happening right in front of your eyes, something aint right.

Told her that she needs to evaluate her relationship with these friends because every time she hangs out with them, there's an extremely high chance of a very negative outcome. I also told her that she seems to submissively pedestalize these people and treat her true friends like they are replaceable. I don't know if this group of women used to bully her in HS because her excuses for these people scream of Stockholm Syndrome. Luckily, she rarely hangs out with them, but if it becomes more common than I will have to re-evaluate this relationship.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Edit: Also, if you know how those people are, why do you hang out with them? You are with your woman, you don't need those toxic people there, its better to hangout with your woman than with those people, if they invite you both to go out, you have a better plan for both of you, and then you avoid that situation completely.

These are her HS "friends", and you are preaching to the choir lol. Her frame is completely different when she is around these people, so I am not sure wtf has happened between her and her friends.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

I remember I used to bang this chick who was calm and docile when she would smoke weed but total coont when drunk.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I can only keep my own frame. If I am going to be a lush I have no standing to call anyone else a lush. If I lose control of myself who is going to take me seriously?

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Boundaries and limitations are a part of every healthy relationship, friendship and interaction, set them early on and if they are not followed, implement consequence.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Told her that she needs to evaluate her relationship with these friends because every time she hangs out with them, there's an extremely high chance of a very negative outcome. I also told her that she seems to submissively pedestalize these people and treat her true friends like they are replaceable. I don't know if this group of women used to bully her in HS because her excuses for these people scream of Stockholm Syndrome. Luckily, she rarely hangs out with them, but if it becomes more common than I will have to re-evaluate this relationship.

I think that's an overly sympathetic approach to just plain old bad behavior/not being able to handle ones self like a respectable adult. Her friends are not responsible for her behavior--she is. Ofc there's a lot of details we don't know of.. but regardless, I stand with @CAPSLOCK BANDIT in what he said. You need to be stern and set your boundries and what you tolerate/wont tolerate quickly and efficiently.. empathetic and understanding doesnt bring results.. Its more or less my way or the high way type of attitude.. Especially if you know you got your sh.t together in life.

 

[logicallefty]

In the exact scenario of the OP, I always say "I am leaving. Are you coming with me or not?" They usually do. But by giving them a choice they don't try to play the "you are controlling" card about it later. Also, I think if they end up staying it gives them time to stew over where I may have went and what's going to happen with me when we talk about it later. Last time I did this I left, didn't answer her calls for an hour. When i finally did answer I actually got a full apology, her begging me to come back to pick her up, some reflection on what she had done wrong, and some great sex when we got home.