"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How to change from beta to alpha ?
- Thread starter Thechamp
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Zion
Senior Don Juan
How to get in shape?
How to be happy?
Time, effort and dedication.
Maximummax
Senior Don Juan
I am no expert in Advice, But i can recommend a book for you which is good " NO more mr Nice Guy"Thechamp said:
Remove the words alpha and beta from your vocabulary... Unless you're studying math or physics or whatnot, in which case you might need them.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
coochieman
Don Juan
Your whole lifetime of schooling, twitching and maintenance.
Material needed available everywhere. Your pain, willingness, resilience, stubbornness, shamelessness, aplomb in form of choices are what are in doubt.
You are here and now an ALPHA MALE for nobody has the power to convince yourself otherwise any longer.
That simple.
No shortcuts.