Ive known this girl for a couple of years on and off. I graduated from her high school and she is about to grad. she's told me about some of the dudes that were her friends but then wanted to be more and she rejected them. I won't do that but i do i perfectly get her to want ME to become her lover or boyfriend w/o messing it up?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How to change chick from from friend to lover.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
earthshyne
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Tell her what you want.
Make your case, clearly, concisely and directly.
"You know, we've been friends for quite a long time. We seem to get along well, we're both have fun together. I'd like to take this to the next level."
Watch her reaction.
If it's positive, gather her up in your arms and plant a really nice one on her.
If it's mediocre, continue the conversation. It will obviously depend on what her issues are, but if you maintain an active listening role, suspending judgement and the need to fix whatever's wrong, you'll probably be ok.
If it's negative, tell her in some manner that you'll leave the door open if she wants to enter, but you won't bring it up again because you don't want to taint the friendship.
NOTE: Wimmen change their minds at the drop of a hat, so be flexible. She may say "yes" to a relationship today and then distance herself tomorrow. Or it may be the opposite. Just follow her cues. And if it gets too confusing to keep up with the mood swings... NEXT...
Make your case, clearly, concisely and directly.
"You know, we've been friends for quite a long time. We seem to get along well, we're both have fun together. I'd like to take this to the next level."
Watch her reaction.
If it's positive, gather her up in your arms and plant a really nice one on her.
If it's mediocre, continue the conversation. It will obviously depend on what her issues are, but if you maintain an active listening role, suspending judgement and the need to fix whatever's wrong, you'll probably be ok.
If it's negative, tell her in some manner that you'll leave the door open if she wants to enter, but you won't bring it up again because you don't want to taint the friendship.
NOTE: Wimmen change their minds at the drop of a hat, so be flexible. She may say "yes" to a relationship today and then distance herself tomorrow. Or it may be the opposite. Just follow her cues. And if it gets too confusing to keep up with the mood swings... NEXT...
earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
... sorry, forgot something...
Refrain from buying her stuff like flowers and all that until she's committed. Otherwise it's a waste of good money and vegetation. Don't ask me how I know this.
Refrain from buying her stuff like flowers and all that until she's committed. Otherwise it's a waste of good money and vegetation. Don't ask me how I know this.
RedKnight04
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HAHAHA hey brother this is my FAVORITE situation!!
Why?
Well, girls are naturally jealous little *****es! Excuse my speech, but let me explain what to do and why.
I absolutely love this because your social proof sky rockets with her being your pivot. What you do is you tell her she is now considered a FRIEND and going to be treated just like one of your home boys. That means she will be opening up her own wallet for anywhere you go. And you HAVE to tell her that you will be looking at and trying to meet with any chicks that you like while you are with her.
That removes any special treatment this attention ***** even thought she was getting. If she dumps you at this point completely than you don't want her anyways. Plus remember if you leave you always want to keep your damn dignity.
TRUST ME ON THAT!
If you two wind up still going out you need to use her. If your at a bar, tell her to go for drinks and chat up any chicks you dig and tell her to bring them back to the table.
Also flirt and chat up any girl with her. Yes plus shooting for digits.
Now all you have to do is sit back and watch the fireworks go off that she didn't have before. Suddenly her competitive NATURAL girl comes out wanting to get you badly. You are her new challenge this way. Your the guy that gets girls and you are DESIRABLE to her. In lamens terms you gotz value playa!
She turns into the person trying to get out of the LJBF's zone!
Captain Tahoe
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thank you red knight i was going to do that and i wasnt sure as to how to follow thru with it. but i think the thigns you said will do nicely. but i did screw up already i have bought her things. but it seems when i buy her something she buys me somethign right back. which is good cause i have always wanted a girl that would spend money on me.
thanks red knight.
thanks red knight.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Damn... what a plan...Originally posted by RedKnight04
HAHAHA hey brother this is my FAVORITE situation!!
Why?
Well, girls are naturally jealous little *****es! Excuse my speech, but let me explain what to do and why.
I absolutely love this because your social proof sky rockets with her being your pivot. What you do is you tell her she is now considered a FRIEND and going to be treated just like one of your home boys. That means she will be opening up her own wallet for anywhere you go. And you HAVE to tell her that you will be looking at and trying to meet with any chicks that you like while you are with her.
That removes any special treatment this attention ***** even thought she was getting. If she dumps you at this point completely than you don't want her anyways. Plus remember if you leave you always want to keep your damn dignity.
TRUST ME ON THAT!
If you two wind up still going out you need to use her. If your at a bar, tell her to go for drinks and chat up any chicks you dig and tell her to bring them back to the table.
Also flirt and chat up any girl with her. Yes plus shooting for digits.
Now all you have to do is sit back and watch the fireworks go off that she didn't have before. Suddenly her competitive NATURAL girl comes out wanting to get you badly. You are her new challenge this way. Your the guy that gets girls and you are DESIRABLE to her. In lamens terms you gotz value playa!
She turns into the person trying to get out of the LJBF's zone!
I might have to use this sometime just to try it out.
Ah ****. There is this UG that always calls me and last week called me for a bootie call that I politely ignored and went back to sleep. I told her to come with me to this even this weeknd, but only as friends and I do mean it. I just want her there because my "friendzone" girl is being indecisive abouit id she wants to go out with me. So I called UG up instead and told her that she is more than welcome to go with me. She literally sounded like she jumped out of her sit with happpiness and said " of course!" thats when I told her "We are only goin as friend, im actually planning to meet other girls there, so dont get your hopes up..." and she agreed.Originally posted by RedKnight04
HAHAHA hey brother this is my FAVORITE situation!!
Why?
Well, girls are naturally jealous little *****es! Excuse my speech, but let me explain what to do and why.
I absolutely love this because your social proof sky rockets with her being your pivot. What you do is you tell her she is now considered a FRIEND and going to be treated just like one of your home boys. That means she will be opening up her own wallet for anywhere you go. And you HAVE to tell her that you will be looking at and trying to meet with any chicks that you like while you are with her.
That removes any special treatment this attention ***** even thought she was getting. If she dumps you at this point completely than you don't want her anyways. Plus remember if you leave you always want to keep your damn dignity.
TRUST ME ON THAT!
If you two wind up still going out you need to use her. If your at a bar, tell her to go for drinks and chat up any chicks you dig and tell her to bring them back to the table.
Also flirt and chat up any girl with her. Yes plus shooting for digits.
Now all you have to do is sit back and watch the fireworks go off that she didn't have before. Suddenly her competitive NATURAL girl comes out wanting to get you badly. You are her new challenge this way. Your the guy that gets girls and you are DESIRABLE to her. In lamens terms you gotz value playa!
She turns into the person trying to get out of the LJBF's zone!
I hope the UG's reaction will not be what you posted above, im just using her for social proof and trying to make my other girl"friend" jealous perhaps. ****, if she will jump my bones after this, I'll call the cops on her ass.
RedKnight04
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Good stuff and good luck Tahoe and souporman..
Baruch, I actually went clubbing with a girl "friend" actually a HB6ish and she bagged me chicks like no other. We did end up sleeping together but their really was no kissing or effection so it was kind of like a one time thing. She totally would date me if I asked though. I guess I'm shallow sometimes. I wish you the best with whatever you choose.
PEACE
Baruch, I actually went clubbing with a girl "friend" actually a HB6ish and she bagged me chicks like no other. We did end up sleeping together but their really was no kissing or effection so it was kind of like a one time thing. She totally would date me if I asked though. I guess I'm shallow sometimes. I wish you the best with whatever you choose.
PEACE
PRMoon
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here here RedKnight, that's a sound set of advice if I've ever seen any.
I definately want you on my team, but I still don't know where I'm goin saturday night.
here here RedKnight, that's a sound set of advice if I've ever seen any.
I definately want you on my team, but I still don't know where I'm goin saturday night.
RedKnight04
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PRMoon its all good holla at me!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.