Scars
Master Don Juan
I know this is isn't really seduction related (I guess you can kind of consider it that way, as with a cheating spouse) but I just find the general topic intriguing. I like knowing I have the social advantage at spotting people that are lying to me. If you're an employer it also wouldn't be a bad idea to know a thing or two about detecting lies, as it could save you from scams and fraud. I thought I would start a discussion on it.
I researched it a bit and the most repeated thing I saw was the lack of eye contact. I however disagree with this slightly. I think this is the most obvious signs of them all, so obvious that people will actually FORCE eye contact to avoid being caught in a lie. If the eye contact seems forced, the person could be lying. I also believe there are other variables involved as well. If a persons is "pointing" their body away from you, as in their arms, hands, and knees aren't facing you it is usually an indicator of a lie. Also, people who are being truthful have a more "open" posture. Their palms will be open rather then closed, and I think if the person makes an effort to reach out and touch you with combined eye contact they could be being truthful as well, as a liar tends to be defensive and have a more "enclosed" posture.
They also may subconsciously put objects between the two of you. And are usually eager to change the topic, and feel more relieved once you do. Rather a truthful person will most likely be more offensive and take an extra effort to "clear their name". Offensive = truthful. Defensive = liar.
A liar will use your words to make an answer to your question. If you ask them, "Did you drink the last of my Vodka?" They will reply with "No, I did not drink the last of your Vodka." Rather than replying with a simple "No."
Liars will also speak unnaturally, and add unnecessary details. They also tend to break up sentences more as this is their effort to be more direct, which makes them further defensive. "No, I did not blah blah" Rather than "I didn't." "Did not" has more this-is-how-it-is-end-of-story-leave-me-alone effect to it, which is what they are trying so hard to convey to you.
I was also able to catch a documentary on the subject one night on TV but unfortunately fell asleep almost nearly after turning it on. The part I did catch was when they were using politics as an example.
They showed the video of president Clinton when he did his "I did not have sexual relations with that woman" speech. If you watch it you will notice he is pointing his finger one way, but his eyes are looking another way. There is a break in the connection. His whole body should be consistent with each other, but it isn't. On top of that, he also shakes his head in "no" gesture, but it isn't until after his statement. If he had done the same thing while saying his statement it might had been more believable.
That's about all I have right now. If anyone has any input please feel free to chime in. I'd like to start a discussion on the topic.
-Scars
I researched it a bit and the most repeated thing I saw was the lack of eye contact. I however disagree with this slightly. I think this is the most obvious signs of them all, so obvious that people will actually FORCE eye contact to avoid being caught in a lie. If the eye contact seems forced, the person could be lying. I also believe there are other variables involved as well. If a persons is "pointing" their body away from you, as in their arms, hands, and knees aren't facing you it is usually an indicator of a lie. Also, people who are being truthful have a more "open" posture. Their palms will be open rather then closed, and I think if the person makes an effort to reach out and touch you with combined eye contact they could be being truthful as well, as a liar tends to be defensive and have a more "enclosed" posture.
They also may subconsciously put objects between the two of you. And are usually eager to change the topic, and feel more relieved once you do. Rather a truthful person will most likely be more offensive and take an extra effort to "clear their name". Offensive = truthful. Defensive = liar.
A liar will use your words to make an answer to your question. If you ask them, "Did you drink the last of my Vodka?" They will reply with "No, I did not drink the last of your Vodka." Rather than replying with a simple "No."
Liars will also speak unnaturally, and add unnecessary details. They also tend to break up sentences more as this is their effort to be more direct, which makes them further defensive. "No, I did not blah blah" Rather than "I didn't." "Did not" has more this-is-how-it-is-end-of-story-leave-me-alone effect to it, which is what they are trying so hard to convey to you.
I was also able to catch a documentary on the subject one night on TV but unfortunately fell asleep almost nearly after turning it on. The part I did catch was when they were using politics as an example.
They showed the video of president Clinton when he did his "I did not have sexual relations with that woman" speech. If you watch it you will notice he is pointing his finger one way, but his eyes are looking another way. There is a break in the connection. His whole body should be consistent with each other, but it isn't. On top of that, he also shakes his head in "no" gesture, but it isn't until after his statement. If he had done the same thing while saying his statement it might had been more believable.
That's about all I have right now. If anyone has any input please feel free to chime in. I'd like to start a discussion on the topic.
-Scars
