"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to carry myself...

Ken785

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so i got this friend that is sorta like an older bro to me. he recognizes the flaws in my game and trys to tell me ways to carry myself. but yesterday we went out to this bar where this chick works that i was trying to game, well call her hb8. afterwards we went back to his house and hb8 decides to come hang out. we drank a little and smoked some weed. we were sitting there watching tv and she gets all paranoid n stuff saying shes afriad to close her eyes cuz she feels like shes drifting away.. we all just say dont worry youre just high (she doesnt smoke much) and then she gets all scared n stuff and keeps running to the restroom...this other girl was there to comfort her and stuff. and hb8 asks if i can take her home so we leave her car there and we all take her home in one car. we all feel that she got parinoid and isnt comfortable with new peopple or something.

so we take her home and my boy is all like giving me all these life lessons n stuff. i felt kinda embarrased like he cant tell me that stuff but not in front of girls because it makes me look bad like i dont know how to be a man. so we are driving to the girls house and we were all talking about how weed makes you think outside the box n stuff and i had mentioned earlier that it was my first time smoking (lie) and then he goes i thought it was your first time. i didnt say anything...then she mentions things about ecstasy and trying it and i told her i didnt recommend it for her cuz she was all messed up off of weed who knows what would happen if she tried e.

then when we drop her off, i said at her age she just wants to experiement. then he asked how old was she i said 18, he said i thought you said she was 21? i was like nah i was joking cuz thats what it said on her myspace but shes really 18. then he goes you got me hanging out with an 18 year old (hes 26 and the other girl too) theyre all looking at me like wtf?>??

2 mistakes i made lying about her age...and the fact that it wasnt my fist time smoking weed. if you think about it does that make me look like i just wanted her to smoke so i said it was my first time and the fact that shes 18 does that make me look like i just wanted to lay her?? i wasnt.

i mean when we got to my boys house he was all in his robe about to fvck the other girl in his room while me and hb8 were in lthe living room chillin...thats a bad impression right there...hope when she was high she didnt think i was trying to fvck her or something...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How about...not lying?
 

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Is it just me, or does your social life involve a web of lies?

hope when she was high she didnt think i was trying to fvck her or something...
And now you're lying to yourself, too.
 

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Drug use threads are always interesting to me for some reason. Will my jeans ever get dry? Who knows?! But I will be needing them for the weekend so it'd better happen!

Anyway, possibly the only good thing about drug use is you can blame pretty much everything that happened on drug use. Sad to say but it's an easy crutch to lean on. Your friend the girl, just say you were high and you're not use to being up to par when in that state. It's a blanket that protects you from ridicule so long as you reinvent yourself later.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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