How to bring up the idea of a threesome discreetly?

[donjuanapprentice01]

So me, my girl and her friend are all hanging out this weekend. I've become very fond her her friend, we have gotten very close. Anyways, I want to try to bring up the idea of a threesome, but I want to do it very discreetly.

Any tips?

 

[CrimsonPanther]

if you love your girlfriend and wanna stay with her, don't bring it up. even if she agrees, the relationship will soon end.
that said, what worked for me in the past was vodka+orange juice, and when everyone is tipsy, bring the conversation to a more adult theme, and it will eventually lead to them kissing each other, and from there to a 3way very fast. it's 80% for me this way.
without the help of alcohol... you will be walking on a very thin ice. the moment your gf realizes you "are fond" of her friend, it's over for you. unless she is a little bisexual pervy but that is no gf material anyway.

 

[MOTU]

Yea you definitely can't ask for it... Best bet is to get them drunk and create some sexual energy between you and your gf and hope it transfers. For example, you could show the friend how good of a kisser your gf is. Or how hard her nipples get when she is turned on. Something like that.

But if you say "can we have a 3some" you are toast.

Also, don't show too much interest in the friend. Make it about your gf.

 

[Atom Smasher]

This is a good example of the adage (well, MY adage), "Never verbalize ideas to women. Present them covertly."

Women excel at covert communications. When we communicate to them covertly (make a veiled reference to something, sometimes in several different ways over time), they will think it was their idea and it will therefore be accepted.

Using this method you can convince most women that the sky is green with pink polka dots. They are SO vulnerable to suggestion. This is why they're as screwed up as they are today.

Directly verbalize and your point will be rejected or accepted grudgingly. Communicate covertly and your idea is much more likely to be internalized and accepted. This post has little to do with the OP's goal of a threesome (as I think it would be a mistake), but the subject reminded me of the general principle of covert communications, something we men are not good at and need to learn.

When you want to learn covert communications, keep the word, "plant" in mind. You want to plant suggestions until critical mass is obtained.

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

This is a good example of the adage (well, MY adage), "Never verbalize ideas to women. Present them covertly."

Women excel at covert communications. When we communicate to them covertly (make a veiled reference to something, sometimes in several different ways over time), they will think it was their idea and it will therefore be accepted.

Using this method you can convince most women that the sky is green with pink polka dots. They are SO vulnerable to suggestion. This is why they're as screwed up as they are today.

Directly verbalize and your point will be rejected or accepted grudgingly. Communicate covertly and your idea is much more likely to be internalized and accepted. This post has little to do with the OP's goal of a threesome (as I think it would be a mistake), but the subject reminded me of the general principle of covert communications, something we men are not good at and need to learn.

When you want to learn covert communications, keep the word, "plant" in mind. You want to plant suggestions until critical mass is obtained.

Interesting. Can you expand on this covert communication Atom? Its something I'd definitely want to learn.

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

Alright thanks for the tips. So get them hammered. Check. Its just one of my fantasies really. If it happens cool. If not well no biggie.

But I definitely want to learn this covert communication thing. Sounds like a really powerful weapon!

 

[Bible_Belt]

Get the girls making out. The threesome is about their experience with each other, and you just happen to get to fvck both of them.

 

[VikingKing]

Usually if the girl is a whorve + alcohol it should be fairly easy.

 

[Jaylan]

Dont move forward with this unless your willing to potentially lose your girl. Ive seen three things happen;

1. Girlfriend gets jealous, and doesnt handle your request well which can cause strife between you two. Or if she happens to bisexual/bicurious and go through with it, she cant look at you the same anymore.

2. Now youve opened the floodgates. She knows that now youre ok with other women...so she may think its license to screw around with other women when youre not around.

And even if you lay ground rules against that, are you able to handle the idea that even if shes not hanging out alone with guys...a woman has to have chick friends. Think about that...now even her chick friends are potential sexual partners. This is part of why I would only ever get into a relationship with a legit straight woman.

3. Shes cool with it, you guys have fun, and continue the fun into the foreseeable future.


Now OP, realize result 3 is not the most common when it comes to bringing outsiders into an originally monogamous relationship. It takes the right kind of people to be able to deal with the potential jealously or cheating issues that may come of all this.

Tread lightly bro. Think about this thoroughly, and dont think about it with your d!k when you do.

 

[Greasy Pig]

And make sure you bust with your girl, not the friend. I've heard of GFs in these situations being super cool with threesomes until their man dumps his load in, on or with the other chick. Then it's game over.

 

[VladPatton]

Just make sure everyone is drinking enough liquid courage. Sit on the couch, pull out your hog, and say "so whatchu bıtchez gonna do about this??"

Pro tip: Make sure you've got a hard-on.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Bro, you don't bring it up. 3 somes are the type of thing that "just happen"

Planning for one is like planning to have polio... well... not exactly, but you get my point.

If you girlfriends not a total b1tch and you plan on keeping her around you wont even try.

It will lead to the relationship being over as fast as you can say "nipple thruster"

Fantasies are fantasies for a reason, I've had three 3 somes, and trust me bro, they're not all that.

1. If she is willing to have one, it may be a red flag of a sort

2. If you do go along with it, it was cause fidelity and insecurity strain on the relationship

3. She may think has a license to an open relationships

4. Threesomes never work in standard relationships, leave it alone

Do what thou will though, I suppose.

 

[Ronaldo7]

Benjamins in hand. It should be fairly easy then.

 

[El Payaso]

And make sure you bust with your girl, not the friend. I've heard of GFs in these situations being super cool with threesomes until their man dumps his load in, on or with the other chick. Then it's game over.

LMFAO. FUNNY AS SH!T.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Rex Says Don't Do It

Rex would HIGHLY advise against doing this with your girlfriend. To Rex it sounds as if you're not truly interest in the menage action per se, but you're using the threesome as a conduit to knowing the friend carnally. This has the potential to generate into a cluster eff for the following reasons,

1) What if you like the friend more than your current girlfriend?

2) What if your girlfriend likes kissin' on, lickin' of and bumpin' the tw*t of her friend more than she likes being with you?

3) What if your girl wants to be on the "rotisserie," with you and one of your potnas?

Doing threesome with in the confines of an exclusive relationship is a Pandora's box which is best to remain closed. However Tyler from RSD, offers advise and insight to you and your situation,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZANMgG6gTw

Create Relationships For Your Current Stage Of Life: Be Self Aware, Make Only Promises You Will Keep
Go to 49:58 of the clip.