"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to bring up a LTR?

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What's the best way to let a girl know you interested in more than just sex and possibly a LTR. I know telling her directly isn't the way to go. Should I just wait for her to bring it up. We've been dating for a month or so and already had sex numerous times. Just don't want her to get the feeling that all I want is sex. Any Ideas?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bay area pimp said:
What's the best way to let a girl know you interested in more than just sex and possibly a LTR. I know telling her directly isn't the way to go. Should I just wait for her to bring it up. We've been dating for a month or so and already had sex numerous times. Just don't want her to get the feeling that all I want is sex. Any Ideas?

Take her out.....Dont just meet up with her to shag. Normally its something that just happens. Watch how she refers to you when she talks to other people. Does she say "This guy im seeing" or does she use the term "boyfriend". If the second then you can talk to her about making it exclusive.



Sarge On!
 

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Here is a trick I learned that worked for me:

Be having a normal conversation and say something subtle like:

"I love labels, they make relationships, things in general so much easier in life. They make it so much easier to know where you stand with someone in your life"

This does two things, it tells her that you like labels (IE - Boyfriend / Girlfriend.) But it also lets you keep your power and not give it away by doing something wussyish and asking her, "Will you be my girlfriend?"

If you say the remark about labels and knowing where you stand, and she bites, the conversation will probably lead the way of where you stand in the current relationship. Just remember, don't ask her to be your girlfriend. If anything tell her casually, "I guess you are my girlfriend." Like you are doing her the favor here.

Here is a tip for the conversation:

Sometimes these conversations can lead to a place where she fires a question to you like, "Where do you think we stand?" To which point you can follow up with some ****y and funny remark like, "You love me, but I'm still playing hard to get." Then finish it off with a sly smile. Then kiss her.

If all else fails, just introduce her to your friends or someone you know as your girlfriend. I think she will get the hint that way.


Good luck and great question!
 

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You don't, it is called begging. She has to bring it up, it is the only way you'll know if she really wants you. Anyway, why turn down sex with other women if you don't have too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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try to be a lil romantic..
like when u guys are talkin... look into her eyes and star while shes talkin but dont look like a creep.. look as ur paying ALOt of attention

and compliement her ONCE a while.. like for an example when she phones be like Hey beautiful(please dont over compliament her)

and like hold her hands after a few dates

but dont hold it all the time..after u hold u hand for like two dates.. Stop then.

let her grab ur hand.. if she does then this is a VERY good sign

im hung over at the moment but i dont have a problem with the friend zone if im looking for a LTR.. pm me and i can give u more tips in a few hours
 
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