How to bounce back from whisky d*ck?

[MrEkko]

First date tonight, we went for some drinks, evening was going very well and we ended up coming to mine.
As you have guessed, after one too many I couldn’t rise to the occasion. I was feeling like 90% there during foreplay, and the moment I put on the condom I could just tell it wasn’t gonna work. I managed a couple of thrusts with a semi and that was it. F*cking terrible cos she is hot and I wanted to have sex with her but alcohol won and my body abandoned me.
I told her she was welcome to stay over (hoping for a morning redemption) but she had to go home due to an early day.
Now, I liked this girl and want to see her again (not just for the obvious). I said I felt bad and she said it’s no big deal, we can go out again and drink less etc but I can’t help but thinking that one moment is enough to ruin it.
I didn’t mention it again obviously - is there a better way to handle situations like this when they unfortunately happen?
Also, anything specific to be mindful of now or do I just not mention it again and hope she will want to go out again?

 

[TheProspect]

I didn’t mention it again obviously - is there a better way to handle situations like this when they unfortunately happen?
Also, anything specific to be mindful of now or do I just not mention it again and hope she will want to go out again?

Act like it's no big deal. Don't bring it up. If she brings it up, laugh it off, something like "Haha yeah maybe I had a few too many drinks, whatever". Don't over-explain.

Learn to rock a girl's world using fingers, tongue, and psychology. Although you can't lean on those too heavily (you need to eventually lay the pipe good), they'll buy you some time if the girl has enough interest in you to give you a few more chances.


Going forward,

Drink less, and maybe pop 5-10mg of Cialis the morning of for both the psychological and chemical/physiological boost.

 

[Willie Naylor]

First date tonight, we went for some drinks, evening was going very well and we ended up coming to mine.
As you have guessed, after one too many I couldn’t rise to the occasion. I was feeling like 90% there during foreplay, and the moment I put on the condom I could just tell it wasn’t gonna work. I managed a couple of thrusts with a semi and that was it. F*cking terrible cos she is hot and I wanted to have sex with her but alcohol won and my body abandoned me.
I told her she was welcome to stay over (hoping for a morning redemption) but she had to go home due to an early day.
Now, I liked this girl and want to see her again (not just for the obvious). I said I felt bad and she said it’s no big deal, we can go out again and drink less etc but I can’t help but thinking that one moment is enough to ruin it.
I didn’t mention it again obviously - is there a better way to handle situations like this when they unfortunately happen?
Also, anything specific to be mindful of now or do I just not mention it again and hope she will want to go out again?

Don't text her at all with any sort of apologies or asking to see her again.

Focus on other women for now, and if she doesn't hit you up in the next 2 weeks, then just chalk this one up to the game.

@Modern Man Advice did you know there's a small town called Whiskey D!ck, Oregon?

 

[Robert28]

I had a girl dump me over this back in college. You talk about a blow to the ego. The worst part is we’d had great sex before and this was our third time and we were drunk. Next day she flat out dumped me “sorry something changed for me” and I knew what that was about. You will be LUCKY if you ever hear from her again in my experience. It really messes with your mind and confidence when they dump you for it.

 

[MissouriMark]

Yep and it's even worse when you have whiskey dik the first time with a particular woman cuz sometimes the next few times you're then thinking too much about it even if you're sober and you can end up putting too much pressure on yourself to make up for the first time, and you can still have trouble getting it up.

 

[Mike32ct]

I had a girl dump me over this back in college. You talk about a blow to the ego. The worst part is we’d had great sex before and this was our third time and we were drunk. Next day she flat out dumped me “sorry something changed for me” and I knew what that was about. You will be LUCKY if you ever hear from her again in my experience. It really messes with your mind and confidence when they dump you for it.

In 2018, I had amazing sex with this nurse on a date 3. On date 4, I “flopped.” (I might have been nervous or stressed from work or whatever.)

I really liked her, but never saw date 5.

 

[MrEkko]

In 2018, I had amazing sex with this nurse on a date 3. On date 4, I “flopped.” (I might have been nervous or stressed from work or whatever.)

I really liked her, but never saw date 5.

God damn that’s not encouraging

 

[Mike32ct]

OP, you did the right thing by offering to have her stay over. “Morning redemptions” can be very good when they do stay over. Too bad she couldn’t.

I’m not saying give up on this chick yet. You have nothing to lose by trying to set up another date. By all means give that a try.

Just want you to be prepared to let her go in case it doesn’t work out. Then, mentally let this go and start out with a “clean slate” with another chick.

 

[SW15]

You're probably not bouncing back from it with first time sex. Women today have too many options to put up with that.

If you think your dicck might not work as well as it should after multiple drinks, better to postpone the sex.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Performance anxiety .... boils down to wanting too impress / please her when in reality it should really be the other way around

i haven't figured out how to avoid this without using viagra which obviously isn't always an option although i do keep some stocked in my bathroom now

also over the years ive realised a pu$$y and pair of t1ts isn't always enough to get the motor going

Ive noticed ive become far more sexually receptive to how a girl acts and what she says in bed ..... if she's confident and comfortable talking about sex with you i find the anticipation can build nicely before you even get naked

If she's insecure and nervous then i find this a massive turn off and defenitley won' get hard

 

[MrEkko]

If you think your dicck might not work as well as it should after multiple drinks, better to postpone the sex.

Looking back I shouldn’t have asked her back to mine after the date, as it was risky, but my eagerness got the best of me.

As mentioned above, I’ll just play it cool now, act like nothing happened and text her casually tomorrow, ask her out again and hope for the best.

 

[SW15]

Looking back I shouldn’t have asked her back to mine after the date, as it was risky, but my eagerness got the best of me.

I can think of some instances where I knew my dicck was not going to be at its best after a first date with multiple drinks and physical chemistry. I postponed. I have always thought that it was better to have the first time sex with a new partner with less alcohol in the system and a more fierce erection.

You run the risk of a ghosting/flaking by postponing sex too. There was one instance where I had a hot makeout session with a 5'10" ex college athlete on a first date. That's a solid get for me as a 5'10" guy. We both had multiple drinks and we probably could have gone back to her place for sex (her place was closer to the bars where we multivenued than mine). I knew the sex wasn't going to be ideal and didn't want to mess it up. I texted her and never heard anything from her again. I found away she moved to a different city not that long after.

It is a tough decision to make. There have also been other times where I postponed after multiple drinks and first date physical chemistry and got the bang later on.

 

[derby1]

I thought women werent judgemental? and they believed in equality?...does she take no responsbility in arousing you..............


Thought not.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Don't text her at all with any sort of apologies or asking to see her again.

Focus on other women for now, and if she doesn't hit you up in the next 2 weeks, then just chalk this one up to the game.

@Modern Man Advice did you know there's a small town called Whiskey D!ck, Oregon?

I wonder what the population is there...


Modern Man Advice

 

[zinc4]

First date tonight, we went for some drinks, evening was going very well and we ended up coming to mine.
As you have guessed, after one too many I couldn’t rise to the occasion. I was feeling like 90% there during foreplay, and the moment I put on the condom I could just tell it wasn’t gonna work. I managed a couple of thrusts with a semi and that was it. F*cking terrible cos she is hot and I wanted to have sex with her but alcohol won and my body abandoned me.
I told her she was welcome to stay over (hoping for a morning redemption) but she had to go home due to an early day.
Now, I liked this girl and want to see her again (not just for the obvious). I said I felt bad and she said it’s no big deal, we can go out again and drink less etc but I can’t help but thinking that one moment is enough to ruin it.
I didn’t mention it again obviously - is there a better way to handle situations like this when they unfortunately happen?
Also, anything specific to be mindful of now or do I just not mention it again and hope she will want to go out again?

Honestly....pop 5 mg of cialis the night before you meet her next time and then 5 more mg 2 hours before your next date with her. That way it accumulates in your system. Stay sober maybe only 1 to 3 drinks and bang her like a rockstar. Let her ride you until she cums multiple times switch it up....preferably with good music playing have marathon sex then finish her from behind and hit it hard. Cialis is perfect for this. Just don't abuse it. But you can literally be banging her for hours at a time like this with the music playing. 3
Even if you go early will still stay hard enough to stay in her and regain stamina quickly.

 

[MrEkko]

have never bounced back from this tbh, lol. Even in relationships. Their narcissism is unreal.

Thats god damn harsh, I’ve had bitching when it happened in a relationship but no big deal in the grand scheme of things.