How to blow out the other guy?

[volkme68]

Been posting about her forever...Basically her and I are very very close friends. Very high KINO and very flirty. I have liked her for awhile and I am very sure she is into me, but she was in a place where she said she didn't want a relationship. She is a freshman, I a senior, both going into the military after collage. Because she is such a close friend, I didn't want to create problems if she didnt want a relationship. My fault I know.

We hooked up in a drunken stupor two weeks ago. I am only third guy she has ever done anything with, ie not a promiscuous girl. Nothing awkward at all. She sleeps over all the time anyway.

Well out of nowhere, this kid she hung out with three times told her he liked her. Long story short they started dating this week officially.

I distanced myself a little and when she wanted to know what's wrong, I told her how i felt. Yes, yes AFC but I was planning on walking away anyway. Turns out she just didnt pick up on the feelings, and has felt similarly about me awhile too.

She is hanging out with me more than ever, more kino, etc. Haven't hooked up again yet, but she wont even kiss the bf more then a quick peck,so not worried about it.

She told me she would date me, but in this relationship. I am sure she likes him too, just not as much as she likes me.

I believe her mindset now is how to break things off with this kid, and be with me without hurting him too much and coming off as a two-timing *****.

I couldn't care less about him. He is a douche but I do like this girl alot and she is a very close friend to boot.

Any ideas on how to get rid of this guy? I think if I wait it out a couple more weeks, I will be good, but I also don't want her to think I am cool waiting forever. Is there anything I can do to expedite this?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

He probably has a bigger c0ck!

You don't want her to think that it's cool for yo to wait forever?

But you are cool waiting forever. You've waited forever, and now that it seems she's distancing herself from you (in an intimate/romantic way), you don't know how to deal with it.

They started "dating officially"? What does that mean?

She likes him more than she likes you. There is no other explanation. Why do you feel she's more into you? Did she actually state to you that she likes you more and that she want's to get rid of this other kid?

The quickest thing you can do to "expedite this" is go spin plates and giver her space. If she wants you to be her gf, then you don't have time for her.

 

[women haze]

He probably has a bigger c0ck!

You don't want her to think that it's cool for yo to wait forever?

But you are cool waiting forever. You've waited forever, and now that it seems she's distancing herself from you (in an intimate/romantic way), you don't know how to deal with it.

They started "dating officially"? What does that mean?

She likes him more than she likes you. There is no other explanation. Why do you feel she's more into you? Did she actually state to you that she likes you more and that she want's to get rid of this other kid?

The quickest thing you can do to "expedite this" is go spin plates and giver her space. If she wants you to be her gf, then you don't have time for her.

Could not have said it better myself......she is DATING him for a reason. She never liked you as much as you thought eh?

 

[scrouds]

...collage.

Learn to spell.

Well out of nowhere, this kid she hung out with three times told her he liked her. Long story short they started dating this week officially.

Let the lesser AFC win

...I told her how i felt. Yes, yes AFC...

Ditto

I couldn't care less about him. He is a douche...

Sorry he moved in on "your" territory

Any ideas on how to get rid of this guy?

Have you considered living in a giant plastic bubble?


I remember a time, I graduated college, but still had many connections back there, wound up hooking up with this pledge to a student group I was active in. Turns out another dude that pledged with me had eyes on her for 2 YEARS, but only found the courage to even say anything after I scooped her up and made her officially unavailable. The guy was the biggest creep I even knew, and sometimes you could smell he needed a shower.

Volke, go take a shower and stop staring at girls' tits when you talk to them.

 

[Ice882]

I'm not gonna give you sh1t like everyone else because I don't need to feel better about myself.

But you're being mad AFC.

Make a move on her... she TOLD you she feels the same way you do. How could you not capitalize?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I'm not gonna give you sh1t like everyone else because I don't need to feel better about myself.

But you're being mad AFC.

So you proceed to give him sh1t, without giving him any suggestions whatsoever , and therefore feel better about yourself now! :yes:

 

[Igetit!]

So you proceed to give him sh1t, without giving him any suggestions whatsoever , and therefore feel better about yourself now! :yes:

I have a suggestion for him.


The best way to blow out another guy is by NOT BLOWING YOURSELF OUT by being an afc. He's already made another thread about this same girl.


Take a look at it. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=165497.


His behavior is EVERYTHING this forum teaches against.


Even he himself said that he kept hanging around LJBF territory,then he seemed "SHOCKED" that she gave him the "let's just be friends" speech.



That's like jumping in a pool,then being "SHOCKED" that you got wet.

 

[Ice882]

So you proceed to give him sh1t, without giving him any suggestions whatsoever , and therefore feel better about yourself now! :yes:

Telling him he's being AFC is not giving him ****. Telling him to learn how to spell and being a douche (like you) is giving him ****. I may not have given a specific suggestion, but I let him know what his problem was. And here's a suggestion: read the bible.

And look, fag, I don't need to feel better about myself. The suggestion in itself is laughable. How many girls have you hooked up with this week? Oh, less than three? And you didn't kiss close them in public and then f-close them? Sad.

 

[Ice882]

Also:

He probably has a bigger c0ck! The fascination with c0cks on this site is hilarious to me. Every thread somebody tells the OP that the other guy has a bigger c0ck...hmm...that can't possibly be the reason every time...and yet it is given as the answer EVERY TIME. It's almost like people like you have c0ck on the brain 24/7. You might have as well as written "he probably has a thicker, steamier, more delicious member for me, I MEAN HER, to suck on...

She likes him more than she likes you. Baseless claim There is no other explanation. How 'bout the reason he gave? She didn't know he liked her. Why do you feel she's more into you? Because she said it.Did she actually state to you that she likes you more and that she want's to get rid of this other kid?

The quickest thing you can do to "expedite this" is go spin plates and giver her space. If she wants you to be her gf, then you don't have time for her. At least this is accurate.

 

[Ridingthelightning]

I think you're being lied to. Next time make that move quicker and if it falls through learn from what you did wrong and do it right the next time.
If she hooked up with you in a drunken stupor then she is f'ing him every night because they're "together".
Stop contact till she calls you. Then keep it short and don't show emotion toward the situation. Make her come to you and remind her of why she is coming to you.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Telling him he's being AFC is not giving him ****. Telling him to learn how to spell and being a douche (like you) is giving him ****. I may not have given a specific suggestion, but I let him know what his problem was. And here's a suggestion: read the bible.

And look, fag, I don't need to feel better about myself. The suggestion in itself is laughable. How many girls have you hooked up with this week? Oh, less than three? And you didn't kiss close them in public and then f-close them? Sad.

You're so ALPHA!


Edit: Ice, didn't realize I was dealing with a high school kid. This thread isn't about you, or me, it's about the OP. Nevermind. Just ignore me man.

 

[Ice882]

You're so ALPHA!


Edit: didn't realize I was dealing with a high school child.

Yeah, thank god I'm not "on your level"....

35 years old...

pwning n00b h1ghsk00lerz like me on teh interwebz.

Condescension doesn't work on people who are a level above you.

Thoughts on my second post regarding your expert analysis (and stellar reading comprehension)?

EDIT: fair enough, we can end the flame war. But I still totally disagree with your post, and that relates to the OP. Ignore my insults and give me some rationale for the claims you made.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Yeah, thank god I'm not "on your level"....

35 years old...

pwning n00b h1ghsk00lerz like me on teh interwebz.

Condescension doesn't work on people who are a level above you.

Thoughts on my second post regarding your expert analysis (and stellar reading comprehension)?

EDIT: fair enough, we can end the flame war. But I still totally disagree with your post, and that relates to the OP. Ignore my insults and give me some rationale for the claims you made.

Then you must totally disagree with what I told him before:

He should not be wasting his time with this one; instead he needs to go do more prospecting. That is exactly what I said in my very first response. Asked him some questions, then gave him a suggestion. If you disagree with that, I am not gonna take it personal. Most in here see it pretty clear, he needs to steer clear of this one. PERIOD.

Well, thank you for clarifying things for me, and making me realize you are above my level.

Btw, I see that you have resorted in the past to name calling and flaming, and for that I am just the latest. I stand behind my original reply to yours. What is the suggestion you have for the OP? What have you added to this thread, besides tell me (us) how much above everyone else you are because you don't XYZ, yet proceed to do the very same thing? Your choice if you decide to start flaming, or to actually answer these questions, mainly the relevant to the OP's issue. What exactly do you "totally disagree" with? Even you agreed with part of it before? Please, do tell.

If nothing else, then I am ok with letting you have the last word, unless you have further questions; as we only get a limited amount of posts per day, and not worth me wasting them on high school type of dialogues.

 

[Ice882]

Then you must totally disagree with what I told him before:

He should not be wasting his time with this one; instead he needs to go do more prospecting. That is exactly what I said in my very first response. Asked him some questions, then gave him a suggestion. If you disagree with that, I am not gonna take it personal. Most in here see it pretty clear, he needs to steer clear of this one. PERIOD.

Yes, I disagree with the idea that he has to let this girl go. According to the OP, this girl said that she likes him more. He also said she was trustworthy, and girls like that DO exist. Therefore, if he were to make a move, it would likely be accepted. Then, in order to sort out her situation with two guys, she would chose him over the other guy because in her own words, she likes the OP better. All he has to do is hook up with her. And yeah, I know what the majority of people in this thread have said, but I'm going to believe what the OP said and based on that it looks like a very easy fix.

Well, thank you for clarifying things for me, and making me realize you are above my level. Condescension. Awesome.

Btw, I see that you have resorted in the past to name calling and flaming, and for that I am just the latest. Have I? Not often. And besides you instigated, not me.I stand behind my original reply to yours. What is the suggestion you have for the OP? Read the DJ bible to improve his game so he can get this situation fixed. What have you added to this thread, besides tell me (us) how much above everyone else you are because you don't XYZ, yet proceed to do the very same thing? Like I said, I added a while ago: read the bible.Your choice if you decide to start flaming, or to actually answer these questions, mainly the relevant to the OP's issue. I'm not some dumb, contentious kid. I'm very capable of having an intellectual discussion. Only tards flame because they're unable to reconcile the fact that they're wrong.What exactly do you "totally disagree" with? Even you agreed with part of it before? Please, do tell. Should be pretty clear now. I disagree that he has to next her. I agree that he should always be spinning more plates.

If nothing else, then I am ok with letting you have the last word, unless you have further questions; as we only get a limited amount of posts per day, and not worth me wasting them on high school type of dialogues. Why finish with a shot at my age? Why? Poor form.

~ICE