How to behave in front of the girl and her EX

[younex]

Hello!

Maybe somebody can give me some tips...

There is the girl.
Everything goes the right way.

But how would you behave if her ex would be visit her.
Specially to him...

Talking like a friend? ( i think that´s wussy)
Ignore him?
Make jokes about him?

Cause i think this is a important point.

Thanx,
younes

 

[cactus3178]

Your g/f's ex is visiting her? What for? It depends on the situation...would you care to go into further detail?

No matter what the circumstances are, don't act like a jerk to him, and don't ignore him either. IMO you'll come across like it bothers you that he's there or that you're insecure, etc.

Just be civil, but don't be overly friendly. Speak to him like you would anyone else that you just met.

But I'd really like to know why he's 'visiting'.

 

[GaryNas]

There's a girl I see once a week at a club who's super attractive and someone I'd like to hook up with (especially now that I'm single again). We talk a lot, and have good chemistry, and there's definitely something to it... The problem is, her ex-bf is always there as well.

Now your relationship may be at a different level (ie. serious) than this, and if that's the case then you should talk to her about it. In my situation I talked to him like a friend. He's a pretty cool guy and has no problems with me (or anyone else) hitting on his ex.

 

[00Kevin]

you have to clearly show who is the dominate male here or don't even bother showing your face.

when you see him say something like..

"hey we should trade stories about x". say this jokingly right in front of her. she won't ever let you two meet again. problem solved.

this will show that you are confortable with him and her. it will also put a spike in whatever bull**** your girl is up too.

I've done this before and it works like a charm. it is also nice because i can tell you the first time you see each other you will both be thinking about the other having ****ed her.

 

[younex]

Hello!

Thanx for your feedback!
Good advice.

One week ago the girl stayed for some days in the hospital.

That´s the reason the ex visited her.

Sure, it´s okay to visit his ex if she stay in the hospital.
But i have to know how to handle such situations.
I think your advice is the right way.

Maybe i´m a little bit unsecure, cause this guy stayed 6 years


But i´ll grow...


thanx for your support

 

[cactus3178]

How did he know she was in the hospital?

 

[younex]

The girl had a car accident.
(she was completly okay...)


She used her cellular sending sms (short messages/ i live in germany-i don´t think sms are available in the usa...)
to everybody.

Me & her ex.


younex

 

[cactus3178]

Oh, just curious.


Btw, yeah we have GSM too finally.