"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to be the alpha male in a group situation

Liberty

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I bought John Alexander's book: "How to Become an Alpha Male" last week and I have to say that it's a pretty decent book.
Anyways, there is a chapter where he discusses being an alpha(dominant) male when you are in a group. He argues that to be the alpha male you should be the one doing the talking and to do so as much as possible. He also says that you should have a relaxed and somewhat spread out pose(Don't sit there all scrunched up with your arms folded). He says that this type of behavior is what women find attractive because he says you appear to be dominant.
I want to get all of your opinions on this piece of advice. I always thought that the men who appear physically relaxed and in a physically spread out kind of manner, but basically pretty quiet(until they have something very interesting/funny/important to say) were that ones that looked the coolest and most in control and therefore most dominant. The guys who do all the talking regardless of how interesting it is always appeared to be overly chatty and eager. But I'm a guy so maybe this looks different to me than it would a woman. I want to hear everyone else's opinions on this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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if you command the attention of the group when you talk, you're the alpha. if everyone eventually follows you when you leave the group on your own, you're the alpha. if your friends come to you with their problems, girls or otherwise, you're the alpha.

basically..... you're the leader.
 

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So in other words, if you have built yourself into something totally positive and worthy, you will simply exude 'Alphaness' in a totally unconscious manner without really having to try. People will then tend to see you as a man who is capable and knowledgeable, and therefore worthy of their respect, attention, and loyalty.
 

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When I sit in my group of friends I will sit in the middle and i will spread out abit. I will also get convosation running and control the subjects. If people talk about stuff i dont know anything about i will either ask them about it or change the subject. Act like the alpha and you will naturally be treated like it. I argue thow unless the ladies you are gaming are in your convo group this has no effect on them.
 

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The most certain way of being the alpha male is to be in better shape, better dressed, more confident, witty and charismatic than all the other males in your group. This is the direction the DJ path should be taking you.

Anything else will make you a wannabe, and in my experience, these guys aren't often well liked. These are the sort of guys who act tough, yet back down if any confrontation arises, boast a lot, but can't back it up, talk a lot and bore everyone, and who try to take control, but end up imposing on everyone.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hey there Tomatoes could you explain a bit more what you meant by the following sentence.

"I argue thow unless the ladies you are gaming are in your convo group this has no effect on them."
 

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Originally posted by Liberty
Hey there Tomatoes could you explain a bit more what you meant by the following sentence.

"I argue thow unless the ladies you are gaming are in your convo group this has no effect on them."

Basically if you are the alpha male in a group then everyone in that group will notice and will show you more respect/attraction. If however i am alpha in a group of mates and leave the group to go game other girls who at the time i wasnt talking to. That advantage "Being alpha of the group" wont apply because you are not in the group anymore.

If you get what i mean now :)
 

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"YOU aRE what YOu are when you Got Here"-Jay Z

You can only be what you are and pretending to be something else is just that "pretending" to be something else.

God rewards the Good and punishes the Evil, Be a Good person and Life as it is designed will be Good To you.

Be sneaky and coneiving and life will throw curves balls into everything you desire.
 

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
"YOU aRE what YOu are when you Got Here"-Jay Z

You can only be what you are and pretending to be something else is just that "pretending" to be something else.

God rewards the Good and punishes the Evil, Be a Good person and Life as it is designed will be Good To you.

Be sneaky and coneiving and life will throw curves balls into everything you desire.

You lost my intrest with the word "God"

Relgion is a farce :)
 
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