How to be taking serious?:S

[Sacrifice]

Hi, I need some help here. Its about my past! The thing is that i have always been seen as unserious, and yes i have been that, But that was oldme..

anyway I want to change that, I want to change their thoughts about me.
But its so f"#¤ing hard when they goes against you when you are trying to be serious with them. So how should i start to act... Should I start ignoring them?
not talking, become shy;p or what?

 

[Mr. Wolf]

I always used to be serious! Then I got played, back stabbed, double crossed, and started pursuing my life with passion.. That's when I REALLY changed, and become not serious, playarish..


Serious = talking to intellectual side of their brain..

Playarish = talking to their emotions..



For example someone goes; I like how much weight you lost, was it hard.. You go, nah, just wake up in the morning, run for 20 minutes, then lift weights for 40 minutes, and watch your diet.. Oh yea, it's better to run in the morning before your first meal, to burn fat..

That's deadly serious, and boring..


I like how much weight you lost, was it hard..

Do I look exhausted? No, it wasn't hard!


Something on the moderate side of a good response..



First one was taken seriously and you are aiming at A) pleasing the other guy or girl, B) satisfying your own big ego by bragging, and C) coming across as beta..


Second one is to come across as alpha, putting yourself number one.. Who the fvck is that chimp asking you this sh!t!



Just be beta, put others first, have a big ego, brag, and take every question very seriously, and try to please others by answering it completely and throwing some extra information in there, again to please them more so they like you more.. Turn into AFC and you will come across as serious..


In my experience I am 1000% more successful when I'm not serious.. Here is an example of serious dudes vs me.

 

[Obsidian]

If you want to be "taking serious," you could start by using correct grammar

 

[EFFORT]

I always used to be serious! Then I got played, back stabbed, double crossed, and started pursuing my life with passion.. That's when I REALLY changed, and become not serious, playarish..


Serious = talking to intellectual side of their brain..

Playarish = talking to their emotions..



For example someone goes; I like how much weight you lost, was it hard.. You go, nah, just wake up in the morning, run for 20 minutes, then lift weights for 40 minutes, and watch your diet.. Oh yea, it's better to run in the morning before your first meal, to burn fat..

That's deadly serious, and boring..


I like how much weight you lost, was it hard..

Do I look exhausted? No, it wasn't hard!


Something on the moderate side of a good response..



First one was taken seriously and you are aiming at A) pleasing the other guy or girl, B) satisfying your own big ego by bragging, and C) coming across as beta..


Second one is to come across as alpha, putting yourself number one.. Who the fvck is that chimp asking you this sh!t!



Just be beta, put others first, have a big ego, brag, and take every question very seriously, and try to please others by answering it completely and throwing some extra information in there, again to please them more so they like you more.. Turn into AFC and you will come across as serious..


In my experience I am 1000% more successful when I'm not serious.. Here is an example of serious dudes vs me.

to me just looked like big j was giving off information of something he knew about and you were just be annoying.

And i think when sacrifice said be taken serious, he wants people to show him respect and not look at him like some clown. (now this doesn't mean he has to be some boring "serious" person, laughing having fun joking around is a must but at the same time he's being respected)

When your in a situation where people perceive you to be a certain way because you've been that way ever since you've known them, its hard for them to accept that change in there mind, so they'll probably resist it and just treat you the same way they've always treated you. You have to develop lines in your mind of what behavior you will accept from people and what behavior you won't. Understand what behavior you'll respond to and what behavior you won't respond to. Thats developed through experience in the field. Also Don't look to change your friends, instead just change yourself, meet other people, have them see you differently, overtime the majority of the people you know will now be treating you based on the "lines" you created in your mind, and that'll be your reality. You'll be so use to be treated that way that it'll just come off of you and people will feel it, your old friends will try and pigeon hole you back into your old identity but it won't work and they'll give up.

Just get out there 3-4 nights a week and start talking to lots of people.

 

[Effington]

Life is too short to take everything too seriously.

I know some circumstances require a degree of professionalism, you can google the word to figure out how.

 

[Sacrifice]

Thanks for responding. yeah, my grammar sucks. I'm sorry for that, My English isn't my main language

to me just looked like big j was giving off information of something he knew about and you were just be annoying.

And i think when sacrifice said be taken serious, he wants people to show him respect and not look at him like some clown. (now this doesn't mean he has to be some boring "serious" person, laughing having fun joking around is a must but at the same time he's being respected)

When your in a situation where people perceive you to be a certain way because you've been that way ever since you've known them, its hard for them to accept that change in there mind, so they'll probably resist it and just treat you the same way they've always treated you. You have to develop lines in your mind of what behavior you will accept from people and what behavior you won't. Understand what behavior you'll respond to and what behavior you won't respond to. Thats developed through experience in the field. Also Don't look to change your friends, instead just change yourself, meet other people, have them see you differently, overtime the majority of the people you know will now be treating you based on the "lines" you created in your mind, and that'll be your reality. You'll be so use to be treated that way that it'll just come off of you and people will feel it, your old friends will try and pigeon hole you back into your old identity but it won't work and they'll give up.

Just get out there 3-4 nights a week and start talking to lots of people.

Thank you.

anyway,
Not all of my friends are seeing me as unserious, but there is som few as i said, and i'm agree about that i need to change myself. I have always been in the cooocky and funny categoric. I`m not the kind of guy who just are there to entertain people for their own sake or just to make them laugh and think that they will like me better, no no no!
There have been people who wanted me to be serious when they talked with me, but i was so dumb that i ignored it..

anyway, now i got some advice from u, how should i act when i'm around them? Should i still try to be serious with them, but still use some cooky, and ignore what they think about them?


Thank you.

 

[smooth guy]

I dont belong in the serious type of guy category either and personally I don't wanna change that. That's who you are and that's who I am and it isn't worth brainwashing ourselves to gain more respect.
im not sure in which category you're in but the way I see it, there's the funny guy who tries to be funny purposely to gain others' approval and win attention, and the funny guy who is rarely serious but because of his own entertainment, because he doesn't take life generally very seriously and isn't stiffened up all the time.

I belonged in the first category when I was 12-13 as I used to watch comedians like Jim Carrey on TV and tried to act like them, I tried to gain others' approval by being stupid and make other people laugh. As I grew up I got over that, a lot of things happened and how others see me doesn't interest me as much anymore, only to a reasonable degree. I'm just stuck in the second category, but that comes natural to me I don't even need to force myself or think how I'm about to act around others. The difference is, when I NEED to be serious I can be serious.

If people tried talking about serious matters with you and you just blew them off, that showed a lack of interest in your part and made people generally get more distant from you. Find out in which category you belong and fix yourself. You DONT need to CHANGE YOURSELF AND YOUR PERSONALITY. Being a half serious guy is a characteristic women find a charm. It makes you more fun to be around.
As for letting people know that you're willing to be serious with them in the right circumstances, no need to do anything. Just be more serious and they'll know.

 

[EFFORT]

Thanks for responding. yeah, my grammar sucks. I'm sorry for that, My English isn't my main language



how should i act when i'm around them? Should i still try to be serious with them, but still use some cooky, and ignore what they think about them?


Thank you.

Again your focus shouldn't be them. It should be yourself. What kind of person do you want to be? What kind of life do you want to live? Whats your ideal lifestyle? What kind of people do you want in your life? How do you want people to feel around you? How do you want to offer value to the world? What are your values? What do you stand for? etc, basically this is what makes up your identity. Figure that out then put in the action to make it reality.

If you just always gear your behavior around them its gonna be a losing battle since there other people and already have a perception of you, the only way this changes is when you truly change yourself.