How to be sexual when you're so used to talking about friendly topics?

[Deicide]

Hey, I'm ready to add some sexuality to my game. I'm not a sweet talker, and the way I get laid is through physical escalation. I know how to do that, but I have trouble adding sexuality to my conversations with women. What am I supposed to say to add sexuality? "I can't wait to **** you hard like the last girl?" lol If I tell a girl "You're so beautiful", it is not congruent with me.
So, I'll take a basic conversation log and let's see if we can add sexuality.
Hey, how're you?
Good, how're you?
Good, I'm shopping for all this electronic stuff today.
I'm just looking for toothpaste.
This store has so much stuff here, I get lost in the aisles.
Yes, when it gets Friday, this place will be packed.
I'm on the way to work shortly, so this is what I have to do.
Oh, do yo work here in town?
And said conversation threads out into towns, travel, college, jobs, art. etc... So expanding the conversation isn't hard, I just ask very basic AFC like questions and make comments along the way.
'So now we can add sexality in their somewhere without being creepy.

 

[sighsigh]

You don't really have to. You tell her your sexual desires through body language: eye contact, kino; and by the fact that you are asking her out. You want to have a balance between being scared of your sexuality and coming on too strongly. Openly talking about doing sexual stuff with a girl you just met is gonna sound kind of sleazy unless she is loose or something. You escalate the verbal sexual talk as you get to know her.

But if you really want to... you could always talk about a hot sex scene you saw in a movie or something... I dunno. Or where her favorite place to make out is. Tame stuff.

 

[AlphaNate]

Why are you trying to add sexuality to your conversation with words?

Like sighsigh said, that only makes a girl feel "slutty", which is a quick way to keep her from ever wanting to talk to you again.

 

[Chamber36]

*sigh*

You gotta practice sexual innuendo's. Anything can be used for sexual innuendo's, slipping and sliding, ice cream and lolly pops, pipes, poles, whatever. Oysters, clams, anything!

 

[SgtSplacker]

Start off regular...

Don't get sexual with someone that is not being sexual with you, look for ques. But do try to be suggestive. The key to not being creepy is to make sure the subject wants you to come on to her. If she doesn't show you any signs even after MILD suggestions, drop it.

Mild suggestions can be letting her catch you looking at her, looking at her then smiling, telling her she looks great, letting her see your mood brighten when she comes near. Then consider her reactions...

Maybe she brings up personal topics. Maybe she compliments you. Then you throw a little back. "Your not too bad there yourself girl..." type of thing.

THE IMPORTANT PART IS TO HAVE FUN WITH THIS DON'T FORCE IT, THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN FOR BOTH.

After you have established a "sexual frame" now you can begin to guide her.

Talk about kissing, about what you like, about how much fun you can have together. Keep it positive at all times.

Keep it positive and friendly you don't want to set off her slut alarm by talking about sex unless she prompts it. Sex needs to be realized just before her panties come off and not a second before. Until then it's just friendly flirting.

Me? I kinda have a system where i'll throw a couple sexual life lines, she either catches them and holds on or I throw her to the sharks never to call her again. Quite honestly I try to avoid keeping female friends, they expect you to pay for their crap, sometimes **** block you, they expect more than dudes that's for sure. Rarely have I met a woman that's all about you banging her friends, they do exist of course...

This is just to kinda show you more or less how it needs to go, what you really have to do is personalize this to match you.

 

[Chamber36]

I kinda have a system where i'll throw a couple sexual life lines, she either catches them and holds on or I throw her to the sharks never to call her again.

I'd like to know what kind of sexual life lines you throw.

I usually sort of freestyle the conversation and try to escalate, but hooking them to bring them home is my weak spot.

So what kind of sexual lines do you use?

 

[Iceberg]

There's some good advice here, but another thing you need to consider is if this fits into your personal style.

I've reached a point in life where I don't have problems getting girls. I have good days and bad days like anyone else, but rarely am I stuck in some 6-month cold streak. And I don't do the whole "talking sexual," "innuendos" thing. It's just not me. I can't see it fitting into how I speak or how I make jokes or how I converse. There have been women in my life who get into dirty talk and sexting. And if the girl is throwing it out there, I'll definitely throw it back.

But if it's not your style, then don't force it. There are 100 other ways to get a girl into bed other than talking sexually. For instance, there's acting sexually - stuff like KINO, breaking into her comfort zone by touching her.

 

[Chamber36]

The innuendo's just slip out inadvertently btw. I don't try to do it. I don't do it consciously. The tone of my voice can just be really sexual sometimes. Then I saw the wrong word and voila.

Once I was hanging out with a girl, everything was entirely neutral, and I accidentally made a sexual innuendo. That was a really big relief because it eased the sexual tension.

So an innuendo can be good, but it has to be natural.

I want to know what to say to girls to bring them home, but that's another topic altogether.