How to be sexual around women

[RyGuyFly]

So this probably is a bit of a no brainer to some of you. But for me it's a big challenge.

For years I was trained to not be sexual. To be afraid of my sexuality. That it was a monster to be repressed. Well I'm passed that but all of that still lingers.

I'm not sure how to be sexual around women and I'm afraid to talk about sex. Any pointers?

 

[wifehunter]

Sex is funny. Work on your comic frame.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

As wifehunter said, humour helps. I had a girl tell me she has Justin Bieber bed spreads recently (?!) and I said "So you go to bed with Bieber but he sends you straight to sleep?" Much easier to talk about sex after that (though she went back to Sweden, dammit. So cute too, the Norse beauty that I never tamed).

I know the feels though, I'm a bit up tight about it myself sometimes. I think touch helps - just very light physical flirting, like touching a girl's hands when you talk. That will get her settled and comfortable and you can move onto more personal topics. But do boring small talk for a while first.

 

[devilkingx2]

I'm not sure how to be sexual around women and I'm afraid to talk about sex. Any pointers?

Don't go too deep into it with a girl you barely know/just met/isn't interested (no talking about your "enormous" d!ck in a serious capacity)

Definitely do make sex jokes, innuendo, references, etc. Whenever possible, the frame is that sex is awesome and people who don't like it are weirdos.

Definitely don't get too hardcore (no mention of gimp suits except in a really funny joke or if it's somehow absolutely undeniably relevant)

Remember that if a girl doesn't like talking about sex and you've followed the above rules either she's an uptight prude or not at all into you, either way eject.