"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How to be more emotionless?

AlmostThere!

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I can't help liking a girl and getting somewhat emotional if things end after seeing her for a while. Most of the time spinning plates don't minimize the feeling of attachment. I want to be able not to feel anything if a girl I'm seeing disappears or things don't work out.

Any tips?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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mrRuckus

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Do you have some advice to give... on how to be.. insensitive?
 

DJ Miquelo

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I was gonna tell you to 'spin more plates' as the classic piece of advice but if you're already doing that then...

I'd suggest reminding yourself that this one girl does not make you nor is she as important as you might think. Key here is to not to become fixated on one female cos thats simply illogical.

Make sure you are entirely happy with your life WITHOUT a female in it; once your sh!t is sorted then you won't be as likely to cling to female attention/feel overly attached to any one female since you know your life is slammin without them even there in the first place!

Also, i wouldnt recommend becoming 'more emotionless'. Thats simply counter productive. Its fine to have a passionate character etc... but getting overly attached to a girl with no good reason? thats what you wanna stop doing.
 

Chromeo

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you have to focus on having fun

you can never truly "have" somebody, so why try? just be happy with the time you get to spend with them, if they stick around and the fun continues... well then it just continues

if not, you go have fun with someone else
 

AlmostThere!

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Chromeo said:
you have to focus on having fun

you can never truly "have" somebody, so why try? just be happy with the time you get to spend with them, if they stick around and the fun continues... well then it just continues

if not, you go have fun with someone else
That's a good way to think. Thank you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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terran2k

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you think you can become some type of no emotion feeling robot? you are going to feel something, you're still human. the more you try not to feel anything, the more it'll bite you in the ass.
 

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I don't think you should seek to be "emotionless." The key to being cool is that you are not affected by your environment and what other people do. You have to understand that your emotional state depends on YOU.

No one MAKES you angry or sad. You are the one who chooses to feel those emotions. Yes, early on it can be tough, but if you keep reminding yourself of this fact, you will learn to be in control of your emotions. Don't allow other people to dictate your emotional state. If you allow that to happen, you lose.

Next time you begin to feel sad because it didn't work out. Remind yourself that it is you who is choosing to feel that way. Use your logic to overwhelm your emotion. The first few times, it will be difficult. But with practice, you will eliminate destructive thought patterns and emotional states.
 
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