I think it comes from my personality and who I am. I am too carefree, wishy washy and laid back. I lack that aggression and decisiveness you see in people who are more competitive and driven. Anyone know how I can work on this? I know it is a mindset thing but I continue to struggle to warp my change.
Take the other night post concert, I bumped into a HB as I was heading home yet I ended up being roped into dinner. She paid (I always pay the first and tell a chick she can pay the next so it makes for an easy next date). Thing is and particularly I've noticed with this HB is that I am very indecisive. She asks what we should eat, I say I'm not fussed. She teases me about it. I forget where I parked, she takes the piss out of me. Yet it was her that wanted to catch up. Bear in mind I did not escalate either as we are purely friends (I've got other girls with romantic interests in).
Playing sports, again this appears. I lack that aggression you see between guys when playing sports. It's just that 1% I guess that shows you're committed and you're ready to take someone on.
The funny thing is the summation of the above then spills into my other life as I have to push my self that much harder to put effort into studying etc.
Anyone with tips on changing ones mindset?
Take the other night post concert, I bumped into a HB as I was heading home yet I ended up being roped into dinner. She paid (I always pay the first and tell a chick she can pay the next so it makes for an easy next date). Thing is and particularly I've noticed with this HB is that I am very indecisive. She asks what we should eat, I say I'm not fussed. She teases me about it. I forget where I parked, she takes the piss out of me. Yet it was her that wanted to catch up. Bear in mind I did not escalate either as we are purely friends (I've got other girls with romantic interests in).
Playing sports, again this appears. I lack that aggression you see between guys when playing sports. It's just that 1% I guess that shows you're committed and you're ready to take someone on.
The funny thing is the summation of the above then spills into my other life as I have to push my self that much harder to put effort into studying etc.
Anyone with tips on changing ones mindset?