That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Stop making excuses. You'll never get anywhere that way. Instead, turn your mind towards "It won't work for me now, but how can I make it work for me in the future?"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Partially agree.
Originally posted by [T]he ishop
Are there any females who wouldn't mind giving a word of advice on just what types of shoes they find attractive? I usually end up making horrible selections when left to myself...
You can do far better than a stepmaster. I guess that's a very slow way of doing things, but really, start doing squats. And put your a$$ to the grass. Use good form. Spend some time researching good form and squat techniques because bad form can mess you up royally. Good form, on the other hand, will give you glutes to remember. Not to mention that it will prevent you from looking like Mr. Chickenlegs Bicep Monkey that the guys who really know what what they are doing laugh at.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
any girl that would base an opinion on shoes is the type of girl you wouldn't want anyway, although she's probably a good swimmer.
So what were all those pictures about then? If you're not crazy for him why you want us to mirror his appearance?
Can't be serious, what if my glasses make me look sexy? Will you pay for my contacts' replacement?
The perfect body? You watch way too much MTV. Dreamy girl.
Understandable, I'll let you wash it off once we get at my place. Until then, I guess you'll have to pretend the gel is not there, just like I have to pretend that your ass face looks better than it does.
This is exactly why most man in this society are ****ing mellow cry babies.
The way you pick your phrases I can say you're pretty naive. Always and never are used by naive and inexperience people. Anyway, I'm not listening to your advice since that's "your" opinion and I won't be picking up on you any time soon.
I can deal with that.
I would assume they're already wearing their favorite brand. As for us guys, I guess we'll have to see what works best.
You spoiled little girl. Go back to bed. I'll let you look good for me and then I might make a compromise.
Shoes? I'm not advertising designer shoes or what not, I'm advertising the thing between my legs. So how can I go about making it look more appealing at a first glance? Will a sock with rubber band work find? You know, to buff it up a little? What do you think?
Oh dear can't handle the pressure to look good then, don't go crying when you experience rejection
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.