"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to be dominant and clarify please

anonymousguy

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Hello,

I am a very nice guy. Girls tell me so, and they obviously see it, otherwise they won't notice it ;)
I'm 5'4 (or 160 centimeters) and thus I am a small "cute" boy. I have finally used my disadvantage in height, to an advantage. It seems there are quite a few girls who like "cute little" boys ;)

So I can't change my genes or height. What must I do then? I don't want to look like an arrogant ass.
Also in real life: how to lead a group project and taking leadership, making decisions without showing that I am bossy?

Anyone got some tips? Highly appreciated

Greetings
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the correct words, the correct attitude, the correct focus on people will make it alright. You can't be a ****y motherfuc;a, but at the same time, you can't passively say things in the hope that people will listen.

something like this should help.

"Hey, can I speak"
(them being sensible people will shut up for you)
"I've been thinking about all of this, and would this suggestion work for you. etcetc)

- You've taken control
- You are being polite and using words that invite positive feedback

ie)
"How would you all want to chip in a few dollars and we can all go see (movie) tonight?"
compared to
"How about my idea on going to the movies?"

Focus - Them
Attitude - Calm, Controlled, Polite and Quick and Simple.
 

Evangenlion

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i don't know if i can help u here. but i knew something one who was 5'4 and got more chicks surrounding him then i did at the time.

he was a good friend of mine. he was masculine, feminal at the same time, he would say things and it sounded like poetry. he would walk like he glided on water. he would never laugh at at his jokes, and never talked bull. he would be comfortable about anything he did, even if he was just meeting a girl for the first time and resting a his head on her (he was that confident in himself)

his voice was calm. he was very collect, and extremely cool. and he had a 6th sense about everything. like he could know when something about to happen before it happened (not his espn), he had a way of calculating situations and predicting scenirios (sp?).

man, i should check up on him.
 

Evangenlion

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about dominate thing.....he had could make anyone do anything for him. how? thats a secret i won't tell lol cus then it won't be fair on me or him lol.

but i've given u enough clues....now go out and become...
 

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I'm also 5'4" the first tihng you have to do is take yourself seriously. Meaning dont worry about validating and being dominent to others. Concentrate on first knowing that you are dominent. That you are a better leader then everyone around you. When you actually belive this, it will show in everything you do. After this you an start fine-tuneing the way you talk/ carry yourself.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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