"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how to be crazy without being a clown?

Jay-X

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what's a good way to keep your crazy attitude at parties, clubs and in school in general, without people considering you a clown?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Damian

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A clown seeks others' approval (laughter), so he's depicted as a clown. Clowns are the kind of people who actually make a visible effort to be funny. Girls can pick up on this fast. Be funny, but don't try to seek approval. You know you're funny guy. Be confident and sure of yourself. If they don't laugh, they're missing out.

-Damian
 

Roly

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Good Tip Jay -X

Stop trying to be funny, instead learn to be in a calm, peaceful and enjoyable mood. The funny part will take care of itself.
 
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