How to be Apathetic?

[AlexKaiser]

Yeah, I'm kinda tied to my emotional side. I use it to hedge my bets about uncertain things in life.

That and if you're a creative type, channeling your emotions produces better work. The thing is, the game, the warzone, requires a whole lot of indifference and apathy.

There's passive apathy and active apathy, and its the active part i'm tripped up on.

Passive apathy is you seeing somebody drive by with a Ferrari while you're pooting along in your f-150 but not feeling jealousy, shame or apathy from seeing it, or not even being aware that an angry penis-envious neofeminist wants you to die.

Active apathy is when something is challenging you to care about something, and you can withhold any emotions from it, and prevent emotional investment. Like if a girl turns you away for being "a fuċkboy" or the wealthy alpha decides to flaunt himself in front of you to try and make you jealous.

Things i don't care about, I won't care about. Trump, Wall Street, gas prices, the war, 3rd world suffering, the sanctity of marriage, trans issues, all of that just doesn't evoke an emotion out of me.

However, things like the girl I like putting her nose in the air and turning away from me mid-sentence to greet a less attractive, less valuable man? Kinda pisses me off. I'm not sure how you feign apathy, or show true apathy, to somebody doing something like that to you.

How did you learn to hone your apathy and indifference, and use it to stop yourself from expressing jealousy, annoyance, anger or worse, thirstiness?

Also, how do you not care, without it tarnishing your ability to feel real emotion? I know a guy who can
t watch movies anymore, who can't play games and doesn't even have fun playing pool anymore because he forced himself to be apathetic way too often. Girls can never get in his head. But neither can anything else. Sounds miserable.

 

[bigneil]

You do it by approaching things from a position of giving without expectation. Pure generosity. When you compliment a woman it comes from the heart, not from some need.

• Jealousy is assuming the other person is better than you. Don't.
• Anger is usually an expression of fearing loss (fight versus flight). Plan for the worst but hope for the best.
• Thirstiness is due to droughts (worst case pay a hooker if it's been over a year). It makes no difference in curing your "haven't got laid" vibe as long as she doesn't hate you (fear pheromones are not sexy).

 

[AlphaNate]

Don't try.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Apathy is like confidence you cant grow it out of thin air.

Sure you can fake it but its not gonna be as healthy and genuine as the total feeling of not giving a fvck.

I dont have many gifts but apathy is one of the few.

Imagine sticking your d1ck inside a girl thrust a couple of times and come only to roll over and sleep while not giving a fvck, not to choose of not giving a fvck but genuinely not giving a fvck.

 

[resilient]

Apathy to me is a waste of energy. Why not channel that negative fuel into useful energy outlets like time spent in the gym, cardio, or any other kind of exercise that refuels your self-esteem with the endorphin and seratonin boost.

Who cares if someone is better than you? There's always going to be another guy who is taller, in better shape, earns more, pulls more / spins more plates than you. The best you can do is be happy with who you are, hobbies, and the passions that drive you.

Apathy/indifference isn't the key to success.

OP, you can't caught up on rejection especially by other women. Rejection only hurts when you let it internalize your self-belief of yourself. Brush off her walking away to another dude, learn from the set and continue approaching. You can't get apathetic and give up on the game.

 

[wifehunter]

One thing I've been doing since my red pill awakening, is only focusing on the important things. Everything else, is a distraction.

If you have a mission, you'll naturally, not care. No effort required.

 

[dustmuffin]

Apathy is one thing that I don't lack. I just don't give a f uck. It's actually quite easy. If you can't control it thenn don't give a f uck. Guy cuts you off in traffic? You don't care. Woman flakes on you? You don't care. It seems that most of lifes issues you can't control. So...don't care......

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Two steps. One is to IMMEDIATELY stop focusing on what happened that you didn't want to happen. THEN focus on something else that you want.

This takes time and practice, just like any other skill. Next time you feel yourself thinking and feeling emotionally crappy, FORCE YOURSELF to change focus on something you WANT to pursue. Like if a girl turns her nose up at you, FORCE YOURSELF to start talking to another girl, ANY GIRL as soon as you can. The quicker you do this the better. But it's not automatic. You'll have to train yourself to do this, give it time and have patience.

You only feel crappy if you dwell on things out of your control, so FORCE yourself to focus on things that are IN your control. The more you consciously do this, the sooner it will become automatic.

 

[NSX-R]

I'm apathetic. It's not good though.

 

[ubercat]

Old age helps. By the time u ve looked at your 50th set of beef curtains it's not a noteworthy event.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Something in you needs to snap. You have the physical ability not to do anything, and the mental ability to force yourself to think about something else. Eventually, you can turn into a sociopath and become your normal self again at will. It's only through your experiences though, not being told how to do it. Trying isn't gonna make it happen, it needs to just happen on it's own.