How to be an Alpha Male!?

[Spade]

Hey guys,

I need some advice on how to be an alpha male, im not sure if being an alpha male is a good choice but from wat ive heard its being someone whos cool, liked, and in control. Im new to it and my schools filled with people who are alpha males. Im not quite sure how they got there and how an alpha male behaves, wether its being really social or being a jerk...not quite sure.
Anyways if you can give me some advice on what i need to do become one or if its actually the right choice to be one id appreciate it.

IN Detail these are things i want to know:

-How an alpha male behaves around friends, girls, in class, when hanging out with friends.
-How an alpha male reacts to a situation, if he gets busted for doing some ****, etc.
-How an alpha male responds to people who insult him
-How to turn into an alpha male from who u currently are

 

[jeffthechef]

The reason why sosuave uses the metaphor of jerk and nice guy in relation to alpha and afc is to create a dramatization that helps put into perspective the AFCness of an AFC.

When referenced on this site, a jerk is not some **** that sticks his foot up your ass when he sits behind you or forces you to suck on twinkies like you're giving head. He is not the stereotypical bully depicted on the children's cartoons we grew up loving such as Recess or Hey Arnold!

A jerk is simply a guy who does not act like a ***** to please others. He does not allow women to command him. He does not kiss the asses of his peers to gain approval.
HOWEVER
A jerk does do the right thing, which usually pleases others. A jerk does occasionally assist women when the favor is not ludicrous. A jerk is not afraid to praise others when they are deserving of it.

Being an Alpha is doing the right thing. Now, that leads to one of the most philosophical debates in human history. What is good/right and what is bad/wrong?

There's this Buddhist quote. I don't want to search it word for word, but you can later if you want. It goes something like this, I do not differentiate between what is right and what is wrong, what is right my heart will follow.

Basically, you live your life the way you want to. You do what makes you a better person, including doing what is morally right. You do not look to your peers before you act, but you do consider them and the consequences of your actions.

Don't follow, lead but lead with the soul and mind.

 

[TheEnergizer]

i would say start observing the alphas that go to your school. become friends with all of them and watch how they respond to people, as well as yourself. thats what i did. i just made friends with all the popular kids at my school, and on top of being seen with them quite a bit (people who see you rolling with those guys will see you as alpha) i learned a lot by just seeing how they respond to people. a lot of it will rub off on you. notice how theyre just havin fun and sharing it with other people as well. they know how to make people happy, and people love that, and in turn love to hang around such people.

i even act like them at times. sometimes i'll just think 'what would this guy do' or 'how would he respond to this' or 'what would he be doing right now rather than just sit here' or something like that in certain situations. pretty much every time the response was way better than the boring or lame one i would have given otherwise. like for example if a chick asks me a question instead of answering it plainly i would think of what an alpha kid would say and i would think of a much funnier/teasing/playful than that, and get a better response.

i mean, i dont see how acting like them could possibly be a bad thing, seeing as whatever theyre doing right now works, and they all pretty much have the same basic idea going on thats making them like that. do you want to do what works, or try to be unique and be alpha in your own way? frankly, its easier to just copy off someone else, and chances are trying to be so damn different wont even work anyway. besides, once you get the idea down, you can start to branch off and go back and become your own unique person again, if you want to. in my opinion, being unique doesnt matter, its about finding something that works. i'm basically a product of many different 'cool' and 'successful' people ive known over the years, and i have no problem with it. i just do what they did, which worked, so its good by me. hell most people are that way without even knowing it anyway.

theres a saying thats says something like that much more breifly, i forget it but basically it says you must be like someone else before you can be yourself or somethin like that. learn from someone else first by mimicking them. everyone does it. as a child or somethin. then come up with your own style if you want to.

hope that helped, i dunno if that was exactly what you were looking for, but basic moral here is, just do what the alphas do OK? dont try to be unique at first. or at all. ive never tried being different so yeah. ive just learnt and mimicked from the best of the best(alphas). and kept all their best qualities and ditched the shortcomings. there ya go.

observing the actual alphas and learning from them will help you way more than anything anyone can type here. seeing how to do it is much better than reading how to do it, in my opinion. do as they do. i mean for gods sakes theyre right there. COPY THEM. unless you really have a problem with that. i dont.

so um yea. thoughts? i thought about starting a new thread with this stuff,, for how to be an alpha male, but i wanna see what other people think as well as the original poster. i can say its worked for me though. i just wanna see how others went about getting where theyre at, from other people, or did they just magically have an epiphany on HOW TO BE ALPHA and started to roll that way??
hmmm.....

 

[jeffthechef]

There is no epiphany. There is also no level at which you are forever an alpha. It's not a floor on a building you can arrive on and stay as long as you wish. Nothing in this world is constant. Everything is always changing. That is why even alphas will have afc moments. So don't expect to stay an alpha once you believe you have reached that level. Make sure you practice everyday just as monks meditate everyday to remain spiritually balanced.

And

I would suggest that people focus on the inner when trying to achieve an alpha state. Don't simply hang out with who you believe are the alphas at school and attain popularity that way. That is all you will attain, popularity. And, if your sole purpose of wanting to be an alpha is to be popular, you should look reflect and consider how much of a superficial little boy you are.

(This post was directed at no one in particular)

 

[TheEnergizer]

i never said anything about becoming popular. the idea of my post was to illustrate how to become something you want to be. yeah it was aimed at alpha males, as that was what the OP was asking. but it can be broader than that. it doesnt necessarily have to be about being an alpha male or popular. its about learning from other people who you want to be more like. if you want better grades, and theres someone you know who gets straight a's, then you could find out what they are doing to accomplish that and get better grades. why not learn from other people, thats what this site is for! but i'm saying instead of just taking in everything purely from websites like this and books etc. you could look to the examples that are already at that point you can observe in real life and see what they are doing. (i'm not saying this site isnt helpful though, dont start that shyt haha). i'm saying there may already be people out there who are what you are trying to become. so learn from them.


everyone has influences and role models. michelangelo copied some other guy for a time before he developed his own style. what i'm saying is simple really. i'm just trying to tell the OP that if he wants to become an alpha male, there are already plenty of examples all around him from which he can learn from. do what they are doing. then you can develop your own style. same with whatever else you want to be, there are probably tons of living examples out there from which you can observe and learn from. learn from them in addition to asking for advice and reading from different sources.

sorry if i tried saying something really simple in a really complicated and thorough way, i do that sometimes. i see it has confused you a little jeff. it seems i sorta clouded up my point a bit by not keeping it breif. i hope the above paragraph sums my point up. if not then i am just a bad writer. or that i am wrong in some way? if so then don't hesitate to argue.


least i didnt give him a bunch of philosophical irrevelant BULL :crackup:

(oh sorry that wasnt directed at anyone in particular)

 

[jeffthechef]

That's fine. I didn't think you would take it so personally.

And yes. You do write in a really complicated and constipated way.

But eehhhh

 

[intrextrovert]

Just watch a damn movie with someone alpha in it or think up your imaginary suave you lol