"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to be a 'Man'

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This girl who recently LJBF'd me slipped when she was drunk that she likes "manly" men or something of the sort, which of course means that in her view, I'm not this ideal! What exactly is this ideal of the man that she's speaking of; she always dates guys 3-4 years older than her (18-19ish); how am I falling short of being a man?

I guess my question is, how do you embody this manly man ideal, and don't tell me it's the confidence because i'm not lacking in that. I'm not a big guy, im not short but i'm not big; not really muscular or sporty really. I also look really young for my age - always being carded. What exactly am I doing wrong, or how exactly do I act and portray myself to be "manly".

Thanks guys!:confused:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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first off, don't always listen to what a girl says she likes

and to answer your question, she wants someone to be more dominant. you have to lead.

it's not necessarily about your physical size or how deep your voice is (although it does help. for those who are naturally big, they don't have to project dominance as much).

being that you look young, and i definitely do relate to that, people will take you less seriously. you need to be more alpha
 

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You sound young like, under 18. Just be your age and have fun.

But, as for being a "man"... Don't be a follower; take the lead. Be dominant, don't take sh!t from people, have prioritys. Don't brag, don't be needy, don't try to pretend to be something your not. Things like that.

Also, I'm sure there is forgotten material on this in the DJ Bible or Tip section.
 

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remotecontrol said:
Leather jacket, boots and belt
Yes!

And stop pluckin your eyebrows would also help.

What women mean, even if they don't say it, is that they want a masculine man, not just masculine looking, but masculine behaving. There are two energies, masculine and feminine. Usually, the more feminine the girl is, the more masculine the guy she's attracted tend to be, and visa versa. This is not only true among hetero couples, you see it among gay couples too. Usually a butch lesbian will attract the lipsitck ones. The flamming gay guy will be attracted to the macho looking gay guy. etc.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
Yes!

And stop pluckin your eyebrows would also help.

What women mean, even if they don't say it, is that they want a masculine man, not just masculine looking, but masculine behaving. There are two energies, masculine and feminine. Usually, the more feminine the girl is, the more masculine the guy she's attracted tend to be, and visa versa. This is not only true among hetero couples, you see it among gay couples too. Usually a butch lesbian will attract the lipsitck ones. The flamming gay guy will be attracted to the macho looking gay guy. etc.
Dressing a certin way may show masculinity. But, just cause you are wearing it doesn't mean you are masculine.

If you see a skinny geeky looking kid wearing boots and leather jacket... Are women gonna look and say; Wow, now there is a man! I dought that.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Dressing a certin way may show masculinity. But, just cause you are wearing it doesn't mean you are masculine.

If you see a skinny geeky looking kid wearing boots and leather jacket... Are women gonna look and say; Wow, now there is a man! I dought that.
As I clearly stated, it is all about "masculine behaving", more than anything else.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
As I clearly stated, it is all about "masculine behaving", more than anything else.
I see now! Your talk about how homo's dressed threw me off tracks. But, yes it is about behavior.
 

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Treat her like a little girl. Tease her, make fun of her, take the lead, always keep in mind that you're the man and you'll not be a boy for any woman.


Gangster Of Love said:
Yes!

And stop pluckin your eyebrows would also help.

What women mean, even if they don't say it, is that they want a masculine man, not just masculine looking, but masculine behaving. There are two energies, masculine and feminine. Usually, the more feminine the girl is, the more masculine the guy she's attracted tend to be, and visa versa. This is not only true among hetero couples, you see it among gay couples too. Usually a butch lesbian will attract the lipsitck ones. The flamming gay guy will be attracted to the macho looking gay guy. etc.

Thats true! Butch women always end up with men they can control..
 

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slaog said:
Treat her like a little girl. Tease her, make fun of her, take the lead, always keep in mind that you're the man and you'll not be a boy for any woman.





Thats true! Butch women always end up with men they can control..
Exactly. Very well said. Even if you are not the most macho looking guy, do those type of things, make fun of her, tease her, call her on her bs, and put her in her place when needed, and she'll feel the masculine energy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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