How to be a DJ bf?

[3countriesPlan]

I'm curious about how to be a DJ bf without being a bad one. I used to employ what I thought were DJ thougt processes and strategies and instead I was just floundering through relationships and actually driving girls away. I could pick them up, could bed them, but just couldn't do a good job on the next steps.


So of course, I want to know some tips for striking a balance which allows for a consistent and healthy relationship. Whose got answers? Thanks.

 

[jophil28]

I'm curious about how to be a DJ bf without being a bad one. I used to employ what I thought were DJ thougt processes and strategies and instead I was just floundering through relationships and actually driving girls away. I could pick them up, could bed them, but just couldn't do a good job on the next steps.


So of course, I want to know some tips for striking a balance which allows for a consistent and healthy relationship. Whose got answers? Thanks.

How do you think that you are messing up ?

You are doing the tough parts OK - how do you "drive girls away" after the seduction?
?

 

[3countriesPlan]

Well.. actually haha.. I analyzed my relationship with my gf.. we broke up cause I was jealous and *****ed alot about crap that I shouldn't have.

What I learned from that was:
Never show jealousy except under special conditions
Don't ***** about ANYTHING
Don't think she will help you with problems.
Possess manly traits
Take her when you want.. not when she feels like it (unless shes in pain)

Now that we are back together.. (long story) I've eliminated all the effeminate behavior that I showed in the last few months of the relationship and shes on me like white on rice.. for the moment.. obviously since I like her I'm looking for ways to maintain the DJ mindset and not fall into the old AFC trap.

 

[The Bat]

I think you're answering your own questions but let me mention something important.

DJ mindset is not something you "switch" to when single and are picking up girls. See what happens with having this "switch" technique is that, and this has happened in your case, you turn off this DJ mindset once you become exclusive. You say to yourself, "Alright, well now that I'm with her, I can turn off the DJ mindset about not being jealous and whatever because she's with me. I don't need to put any 'effort' in because we're exclusive."

A DJ mindset is a natural perspective and natural way to exude confidence. You don't "employ" DJ thought processes. You just have them. Too many times guys here think that being DJ applies to singlehood when picking up chicks is very important. Too many times these same guys, including yourself, think that DJ principles don't carry over to exclusive relationships. Oh how wrong they (you) are!

Like I said, you're answering your questions and I hope with what I've told you here helps you little bit.

 

[DJCT]

I think you're answering your own questions but let me mention something important.

DJ mindset is not something you "switch" to when single and are picking up girls. See what happens with having this "switch" technique is that, and this has happened in your case, you turn off this DJ mindset once you become exclusive. You say to yourself, "Alright, well now that I'm with her, I can turn off the DJ mindset about not being jealous and whatever because she's with me. I don't need to put any 'effort' in because we're exclusive."

A DJ mindset is a natural perspective and natural way to exude confidence. You don't "employ" DJ thought processes. You just have them. Too many times guys here think that being DJ applies to singlehood when picking up chicks is very important. Too many times these same guys, including yourself, think that DJ principles don't carry over to exclusive relationships. Oh how wrong they (you) are!

Like I said, you're answering your questions and I hope with what I've told you here helps you little bit.

Awesome post. I realized recently (from my own personal experience) that one can still be an almost complete AFC and still pickup/sleep with women without too much trouble. If you are an AFC, it doesn't matter how much "success" you have, your AFCness is going to cut the legs out from under you sooner or later. So I guess what I'm saying is that the ability to be good at pickup doesn't make you into a DJ. Probably been said 1000x here but I just started reading this forum.

3countriesPlan, check out posts by Rollo Tomassi and Latinoman.

 

[betterthandead]

Living at home with parents at the age of 30
Buying flowers on the first date and telling her how much you love her
And, proposing marriage after a couple months of dating

 

[lookyoung]

The best way to maintain a relationship is to be a man. When in doubt about a problem in a relationship think to yourself "What would a man do?"


These are some examples of how to be a dj in a relationship.
1. Don't be jealous. This is a useless emotion. If your girl wants to cheat on you she will find a way.

2. Unless your engaged or know for sure this is the girl for you... Than you must absolutely spin plates. THIS IS SO IMPORTANT FOR POWER IN THE RELATIONSHIP. A man with options is a powerful man.

3. Satisfy her sexually.... Fvck her in every postion. Talk dirty to her. Eat her pu$$y. Slap her around. Grab her hair. Make her suck your c0ck. Be a man in the bedroom, and don't be afraid to test the waters. Call her a hor, a b1tch. You will be surprised how many woman I have had respond postively to these words.

4. When a girl pisses you off you withdraw your attention. You punish her. Never raise your voice or scream or cry like a baby. A man makes his point in a calm manner. He doesn't need to scream He can just look at her in a certain way and she knows the deal, and knows she fvcked up.

5. Make her feel safe around you. I have been with woman were I came very close to coming to blows with guys in front of them. Nothing ever happened but I never backed down the other guys always did. And to be honest I don't know how or why but I could see this turned them on. I am not saying to be an idiot. But if a guy is being disrespectful to your girl than you stand up for her... That is your job as a man. Also workout hit the weights woman LOVE guys a little on the muscular side despite what they might say.

6. Compliment her I don't care if a girl is an HB10. All woman are very insecure about there bodies. Tell her she has a great azz. Tell her you like her style. Tell her she is intelligent. I am not saying kiss her azz but compliment her sometime.

7. Last but not least, If you meet a girl that is unique. A girl that your truly love. A girl who has never given you any sh1t than its ok to treat her like a queen. Yes guys that means dinners, dates, and flowers once in a while. It also means being a faithful. But the negative thing here is too many guys do this for the wrong girl. If your a DJ you will recognize the girl to do this for.


I would also like to add if a girl cheats on you than you LEAVE. I dont care if your broke and she is rich. If you have kids with her. If you lover her. If she is an HB10. A man can take some things but a real man who is a DJ can never take an unfaithful partner.

 

[Faded Image]

I think you're answering your own questions but let me mention something important.

DJ mindset is not something you "switch" to when single and are picking up girls. See what happens with having this "switch" technique is that, and this has happened in your case, you turn off this DJ mindset once you become exclusive. You say to yourself, "Alright, well now that I'm with her, I can turn off the DJ mindset about not being jealous and whatever because she's with me. I don't need to put any 'effort' in because we're exclusive."

A DJ mindset is a natural perspective and natural way to exude confidence. You don't "employ" DJ thought processes. You just have them. Too many times guys here think that being DJ applies to singlehood when picking up chicks is very important. Too many times these same guys, including yourself, think that DJ principles don't carry over to exclusive relationships. Oh how wrong they (you) are!

Like I said, you're answering your questions and I hope with what I've told you here helps you little bit.

Post of the day right here!:rockon:

 

[wjh]

Hey bro, check out the link in my sig.