How to bail out

[Peacebewithyou]

So, first time posting on here. Hey everybody.

My first post is a little long.

This chick I have known for quite awhile, since high school, seems to be cold on me at this moment. Known each other for 5 years now. Both college students. Different colleges, so distance apart. We have some history where I developed feelings for her. She had a boyfriend at the time in high school. First year of college, she always talked about how frustrated she got with her boyfriend. Then one day she asked me how I felt about her. Told her the truth. She kept on talking with her boyfriend, but after months broke up with him, and transferred her emotions to me. Into sophomore year of college, I couldn't handle all her baggage, so I told her my feelings changed for her and that I could not be the next guy for her. . She went stone cold on me. Could not reach her at all. Come the end of sophomore year, she told me she was sorry that she went ghost. I accepted, but did not talk to her til weeks after. We exchanged jokes and stuff. Now it is summer, and she still does it seems, the cold and hot. She told me she wanted me to visit her, and I was like yeah, let's do it. We skyped, and for the first time in months she told me she had a boyfriend. I am cool with that. Anyway, after this skype a couple days later she asked to skype again. I couldn't, so I promised her to skype the next day. She replied ok. /come the next day she is nowhere to be found. don't text for a couple of days. i ask to skype again. she is like ok. come time to skype, again she is nowhere to be found.

so, how do i ultimately tell her that i can't visit her anymore? what is she doing? anyone have any theories?

 

[wataf]

Bro hate to break it to ya but you were friend zoned a long time ago, it's a long journey out only way is through her finding out that you're not a complete beta and you actually are hooking up with girls and are still not in love with her. When you told her you had feelings for her did you ever hook up after? because if the answer is no then there is no chance of you hooking up on trip.... if yes even a makeout you may still have a chance at glory.


At the end of the day I would cut off all contact if she starts talking to you again tell her something about your girlfriend not liking you talking to her... Of course though, the girlfriend line can only be pulled off if she actually believes you have a small success rate with other girls.


But pretty much if I can give advice to somebody in your shoes i'd say get out there bro forget about this broad there are plenty of other fishs in the sea and as soon as you get some strange you will forget about her completey.

Remember Babe Ruth lead the leauge in most strike outs as well as most homeruns so swing for the fences boys! :cheer:

 

[Peacebewithyou]

Yeah, admittedly I still have pieces of feelings for her. However, I was never and am not interested in becoming any girls, including her, boyfriend as of this moment. I have also been hanging out and messing with other chicks. It was actually around the time a chick posted on my facebook wall she had a great time with me one night that she went into her current cold stage. I am mostly interested in visiting the city she is at though.

I think you are right with the beta male part. I am pretty intellectual, but not to the point it retards my social skills. I just don't get why she won't calm down and communicate with me so I can see the Big Apple.

Alas, I guess I must let the big apple alone for the time being.