"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to avoid the Relationship

MountainSlide

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Hey so just getting back into dating - smashing after a reasonably long break where I spent time working on my life, my self, and my purpose. So far got one plate locked down. Meet up with her once a week max for smash.

Now this girl from my work adds me onto facebook. So I accept and start chatting with her. But she keeps bringing up my flirting with her etc. I do. Because that’s who I am as a person haha. So I ask her to go for beers. She responds by questioning whether I’m asking her out. I haven’t responded to that yet because I really don’t want this going in the wrong direction. Or anyone catching feelings.

It isn’t a problem for my work if I hit her up. But I just don’t want to get tricked into any sort of relationship here.

What’s the strategy for spinning the plate without drama ??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just be upfront about it. Tell her you're not looking for anything serious, but don't mind having a good time. What else can you really do besides leading her on which could easily cause drama?
 

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Her: “Are you asking me out?”
You: “Of course I am. I would hate a lovely girl like you to be alone Saturday night.”
 
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