How to avoid the friendzone in a time of crisis?

[mtlwlu]

From what I've learned on here from the past year is that you never want to be stuck in the friendzone, and you often get stuck in the friendzone when you are always there for her and when she runs to you to talk about her problems.


My situation is as follows, a girl that I just started seeing has a dying grandma, who shes close to, she wasnt in class today so i shot her a text asking where she was, and she said "things arent looking too good" (for her grandma).

anyways I responded with "sorry to hear that, Ill send you the review for the exam, and let me know if theres anything else I can do"

She sends one back saying "Thanks a ton, a hangout or a walk would be great sometime soon"

I just dont want to be stuck in the friendzone, and the hangout might be hard to escalate kino in a time when shes depressed and sex is the last thing on her mind. Any suggestions?

 

[Igetit!]

From what I've learned on here from the past year is that you never want to be stuck in the friendzone, and you often get stuck in the friendzone when you are always there for her and when she runs to you to talk about her problems.

Agreed. This is right.

My situation is as follows, a girl that I just started seeing has a dying grandma, who shes close to, she wasnt in class today so i shot her a text asking where she was, and she said "things arent looking too good" (for her grandma).

If she waan't in class with you today,then more than likely,you already had a pretty good idea of why. So my question is:Why did you send her a text? That was a mistake in my opinion. If she's out of class because of her grandmother,then you send her a text,then all you did was insert thoughts of yourself into her mind while she's feeling bad about her grandmother. So she feels bad while thoughts of YOU are in her mind. Can you see where I'm going with this?

anyways I responded with "sorry to hear that, Ill send you the review for the exam, and let me know if theres anything else I can do"

She sends one back saying "Thanks a ton, a hangout or a walk would be great sometime soon"

You mean well. I know you mean well....but you seem to be almost trying to get into the friendzone. I hate to say this,but it might almost be too late. It might be,because if you start to back off now,you'll just make things worse. She'll be hurt because you seem to be backing away from her,and she won't know why,and on top of all that,she still has the situation with her grandma to deal with. Uh.....sorry dude. I don't know anyway out of the little hole you've gotten yourself into.

I just dont want to be stuck in the friendzone, and the hangout might be hard to escalate kino in a time when shes depressed and sex is the last thing on her mind. Any suggestions?

All I can say is good luck man.

 

[mtlwlu]

Thanks man, Ill see if I can get myself out of this, should be interesting none the less, Id rather be blown out by escalating too fast, than LJBF for not escalating at all. Ill see if my charm will work on our date.