"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How to avoid financial troubles, the ever going thread.

Oxide

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I’ve noticed some common themes among some of the people I’ve interacted with who were not financially successful. Now, I am myself about $15k in debt from college, just to give you an idea that i am not rich, yet.
This thread serves as a guideline as to what generally f*cks you when it comes to having a successful financial situation. Feel free to add some coherent and time-tested mishaps of your own.

1. Having a Kid. Just from financial standpoint this is a huge drain. I’ve read somewhere that by the age of 18 the parents invest over $200,000 into their child. You will need to pay child support if you decide not to get married, and that hurts. Be careful and use condoms.

2. Which brings us to Marriage. Ask anyone successful, this is a horrible idea unless you are already financially secure to some degree. First of all, ceremony, honeymoon and the ring alone will be a lot of money. Then you will need to get a place of your own and start buying a lot of stuff your wife thinks you need. Avoid marriage, find a woman you truly hate and buy her a house. ( Or just marry at 28-32 range)

3. DWI. Three letters that really suck. First of all, DWI will cost you around $3,000 (in MN), unless you get a good lawyer which can bring it to a number much higher than this. You should always get a lawyer because your insurance is going to rape you afterwards if DWI appears on your record. Do not drink and drive if possible. Multiple speeding tickets will also screw you. My friend has 4 and his insurance is $250 a month. That is almost as much as my rent.

4. Felony for something stupid. Do not steal small things, do not assault people when all of you are in drunken rage. Do not break and enter into places that might be cool. Do not be an idiot. Felonies will restrict your job options.

5. Addictions. Weed and alcohol alone can keep you down from financial success for a long time. Stop smoking so much and drink smart. I see a lot of people buying $50-$100 liquor bottles when they can’t afford them. These are the people who buy $10 drinks when going out. These people are living “ghetto rich” Do not be like this.

6. Hobbies that take up a lot of money. My teacher told me once that every person has something that they can justify spending a lot of money on. Some can’t afford cable but can’t live without expensive shoes, some don’t own a decent car but can’t go without buying the newest computer game. Assess what those hobies of yours are and take actions. Mine is clubbing. I used to spend a lot of money going out, but now I usually use a free pass 8/10 times. I also go to dollar drink nights, or get girls to buy me drinks.

7. Buying new things when you can buy used things. Cars depreciate 25% the moment they are driven off the lot. Smart people buy cars that are 1-3 years used. The computer I am typing this on was worth $2000. I bought it used for $999. It has been working great for 2 years now.

8. Dropping out of college. Unless you are starting your own business and realized that school is not going to teach you anything, do not waste your money dropping out. If your parents are paying for your education, your chances of dropping out are about 1000% higher

There are more things that can be added, but for now just make sure you avoid these. Do not let stupid decisions limit your ability to be successful.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"3. DWI. Three letters that really suck. First of all, DWI will cost you around $3,000 (in MN), unless you get a good lawyer which can bring it to a number much higher than this. You should always get a lawyer because your insurance is going to rape you afterwards if DWI appears on your record. Do not drink and drive if possible. Multiple speeding tickets will also screw you. My friend has 4 and his insurance is $250 a month. That is almost as much as my rent."

How about also mentioning the fact that you could die, or even worse, kill an innocent person. Financial considerations should be the least of your worries when it comes to drunk driving.
 

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Mr_knowit_all said:
"3. DWI. Three letters that really suck. First of all, DWI will cost you around $3,000 (in MN), unless you get a good lawyer which can bring it to a number much higher than this. You should always get a lawyer because your insurance is going to rape you afterwards if DWI appears on your record. Do not drink and drive if possible. Multiple speeding tickets will also screw you. My friend has 4 and his insurance is $250 a month. That is almost as much as my rent."

How about also mentioning the fact that you could die, or even worse, kill an innocent person. Financial considerations should be the least of your worries when it comes to drunk driving.
If you die it would be pretty hard to be financially successful, wouldn't it? Same thing for doing 25 to life in jail
 

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Finally!!!

FINALLY a thread on finances. I already had a major one in the works. I vote that a new wing should be added to the discussion forum dedicated to finances. Money i very important and you must know how to manage it. I read some djs claiming how well they are financially, well start sharing that knowledge I know i will soon. Good JOB.:yes:
 
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