How to avoid an awful experience.

[pulse]

Alright, you see a chick you want to DJ.

You rememmber everything you've read, studied or evern tried. Then suddenly some doubt enters your mind.. what if she rejects me? what if i don't get the number?

Next time that happens.. think about it this way....

1) You don't have her number
2) worst case scenario, she doesn't give you her number
3)If you don't do anything, you are basically just WALKING RIGHT INTO the WORST POSSIBLE scenario!

Screwing yourself over!

So why not? If you don't do anything, and sit on your ass like a nice guy, you are already down for the count. You rejected YOURSELF.

 

[terminator911]

Great post!

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"Women. They've got half the money in the world and all the pu$$y."

 

[pulse]

wow, after a short recess from this forum, I come back and I'm in the legendary dj bible

... good stuff. that DJ bible would have saved me a lot of time awhile back, when I first found this forum lol. Hopefully it will solve a lot of problems.
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000512.html

[This message has been edited by pulse (edited 07-30-2001).]

 

[pablo]

...'whats the worse that can happen', isnt that the current Dr Pepper tag line, havn;t you seen that commerical to see what could happen, you guys never learn, hey.

 

[Lost]

bump!

 

[Fred Da Head]

Great post man, I can't believe I didn't think of it myself! ALL HAIL PULSE! lol

 

[Elimidate]

Thats right..you are doing her a favor. It's her lose if she doesn't take it!!

At least you were nice enough to give her the opportunity.

Elimidate.

 

[DJ Girevik]

Hmm, I have a theory... untested, but a theory. Go out sometime in some strange guise (I.E. dressed cowboyish and talking with a southern accent) and ask girls for their numbers. In this case, it doesn't matter if you get the number or not. But you will get some numbers. A guy I chat with online did this as part of an AP Stats study, and got 8 numbers out of 20 girls he asked (as a cowboy), and all the girls who rejected him said they had boyfriends. He got the same amount of numbers as his true self. So go out in some way when rejection is expected, and you'll see that it's not so bad, and it will make you less afraid of rejection as your true self. (BTW, he doesn't live in the south either, he did this in San Diego)

I'm gonna test this myself sometime ...

[This message has been edited by Rusty Metal Up Yours (edited 12-03-2002).]

 

[Impact]

As I feel I'm getting good at it, I noticed that when I want to approach somebody, I don't think anymore about me approaching her or not, I think how to make the approach successful, what to say, etc.

 

[Marf]

haha...ur screwing urself by not doing any approaches at all....
0 approaches = 0 #'s
(simple math)

after that u can only get better...

 

[coolness]

don´t try to avoid an awful experience. The more it hurts the more you´ve learned.

 

[Holland]

You forgot to thank David D for that one

 

[Adam See]

Yes - good reframe

 

[spider_007]

my worst scenario is; she starts kicking, screaming and calling me names; in front of 30 people.....I don't think that would do much good to my confidence for the next two years....

 

[Cappo Yung]

Simple but effective. This all that’s need to be done.