"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to Attract Someone Long Distance

rakish rake

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Let me preface by saying, I realize the general consensus is not to fixate on one girl, especially when you are in a city surrounded by single women. Still, it would be great if anybody knows how to expand to girls out of a direct periphery.

I met this girl at a party a couple years ago. We hung out twice. She moved shortly thereafter to a neighboring state. After she moved we kept in touch with social networking. Since then, we have become friendly acquaintances and I found that we had a couple mutual friends where she moved to.

My question is: are there any techniques any of you have used to get the attention of someone in such a sterile environment as social networking. -without looking needy. And, maybe I should just find a way to utilize my mutual friends in some manner?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Burroughs

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Become famous...thats the only way

Seriously at this point you are in the friendzone there is not a lot you can do to turn this.

time to hunt for fresh meat
 

bigneil

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There is no way to attract them long distance period. Attraction is physical, based on body language, tone of voice, touch and especially scent (and hopefully taste). Unless you see her and there is STRONG chemistry (which will last about 3 weeks).

Never travel more than 50 miles for ***** (as the saying goes). This is coming from someone who has had seven 1200 mile trips to long distance lovers (most of them flying to see me) in the past 14 months. You go from not seeing them enough to seeing them too much. Bad.
 

n00bPimp

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Yea, dont think your case is a special case.
You get attraction by following the rules of the game, as written on the DJ Bible, etc. You gotta play this one the same way. Remember that, as much as your mind tells you otherwise, your case is not a "special" case.
Be ****y n funny, use push and pull, give her value, be interesting, confident, and fun. You know the whole deal. It applies in long distance cases too.
 

Juan Don

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it's definitely possible but the outcome is you got her emotionally but not physically. if a guy is there and she gets emotionally attached to him you're no longer a priority. he is because he is there and you're not.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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