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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

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How to 'ask out' a girl?

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I know what your thinking, its a pretty stupid question 'how to ask out a girl?', all the answers are in the bible....etc

Well ive got myself into a relationship where I should have asked out the girl a little while ago. But since then I have commited to stuff like going on holiday with her. We act like we are going out just without the whole title of Bf+Gf meaning shes still up for grabs for other guys.

I admit it now, im scared ****less. I fear rejection because I have 80% of what I want with her right now, and asking her out would be the icing on the cake. If she says no, than what I have with her now goes down to a plain old friend relationship.

So I want to pull this off. We are both seniors at HS, busy as hell.

How should I ask...like...uh...'you wanna go out with me?' lol

Where should I ask? In the hallway? lol

I just want to be creative with this, and need some ideas.

Usually I can do this easily, pick up the phone #, arrange date, make out, and done deal.

This is just a weird situation with more for me to loose than just a girl. The holiday, presents shes got me...sounds pathetic but im enjoying where this is going and dont want to loose.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think that you just need to get her alone and kiss her (hopefully more!).

Beware that you may be in the friends zone, however.

Remember wise words from the Cable Guy: He who hesitates, masturbates.

She'll love the spontaneity (sp?).
 

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Hey thanks for your help, thats all the info I really need.

Specially aftershock - thats such a beast quote you have there from cableguy
 

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hey i'm thinking about checking out (insert any activity or movie title here), want to come along?

hey lets grab some coffees at (insert coffee house name here), want to come along?
 

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Originally posted by JH6
hey i'm thinking about checking out (insert any activity or movie title here), want to come along?

hey lets grab some coffees at (insert coffee house name here), want to come along?
I'm not hearing the typical go see movie/get coffee date. I'm hearing that the Orginal poster has all of that...without the title, so it's simply the matter of the offical title...yes/no?

Kiss her, you'll know if to put the title on by her response.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Yeah your right Docs - most stuff I have nailed like asking out but for a date such as movies.

Its just the actual Bf+Gf title asking out that Im going to nail.
 

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WHAT A FVCKEN STUPID QUESTION YOU FVCKIN NOOB!


You are a prime example why this board is filled whit shyt.


"How do you ask a girl out?"


What a dumb @$$ question.



1st off you don't 'ask'. Maybe if you DAFS for yourself you could find the answer.

2nd - You said you guys are already bf/gf without the bf/gf status. THEN what the FVCK is the problem?

If you are bf/gf without the bf/gf status (which I doubt), then you probably would have made out with her. Some guy said that you should kiss her and then you say that that's a GREAT idea. If you haven't already kissed her then how the FVCK are you bf/gf without the bf/gf status?!
 

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are you even hooking up with her?
 

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thanks bluelemond that was an awesome post, very inspiring! but seriously chill, why get so emotional?

maybe if you spent the time reading you would understand its not flat out 'how do you ask out a girl?' because that is obviously a dumb question. It means overall getting out of the friend zone, which is different.

Though your point is good about the kiss, it would be cool to have tried that as a way but I just fvcked her instead.

Thanks all for your help!
 

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Originally posted by bluelemond
WHAT A FVCKEN STUPID QUESTION YOU FVCKIN NOOB!


You are a prime example why this board is filled whit shyt.


"How do you ask a girl out?"


What a dumb @$$ question.



1st off you don't 'ask'. Maybe if you DAFS for yourself you could find the answer.

2nd - You said you guys are already bf/gf without the bf/gf status. THEN what the FVCK is the problem?

If you are bf/gf without the bf/gf status (which I doubt), then you probably would have made out with her. Some guy said that you should kiss her and then you say that that's a GREAT idea. If you haven't already kissed her then how the FVCK are you bf/gf without the bf/gf status?!
I've been given that same advice before and it wasn't enough. There's more involved then just being around her and kissing. Some girls are hoes and will kiss anyone. Being and official "boyfriend" or whatever is more complex.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by dementia
Wrong dude. Only chicks should be the ones to verbalize sh*t .

Its your job to date the girl and get her so interested that she asks YOU for exclusivity.

you DONT ask her to be exclusive or bf/gf or whatever you wanna call it.


Exactly.

English_Bloke, you see how nice dementia is? He did the search for you and gave you your answer.





Next time don't waste everyone's time because your stupidity and laziness to DAFS.




English_Bloke

You don't 'ask'.
 

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So all we have to do is stuff to them and then let them pop the question?

I thought men had to make every single move.
 

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Can I make this clear?

It's a free forum. If you want a forum where there are no stupid questions, try the archives . As for current, live with it, even if it the 538th post about asking out a girl.

Nothing you say or do can change that.
 

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Docs, YOU ARE WRONG. check what virtualmind added onto the sticky about posts may be deleted. Posts that have already been answered are to be closed, no questions asked, because DAFS should be done.


so DOCS, next time before you make a statement like the above, RTFM(or sticky for that matter).
 
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