I am in a situation and would appreciate some pro advice. I met this girl a couple of months ago and we hit it off straight away. Initially we had an awesome time together. After this, I organised a couple of parties, and I noticed, while in the parties, she wasn’t as chatty to me, as she was to a couple of my other friends. However, we continued to spend time together and talk on the phone and developed a certain level of intimacy. In the time we spent alone, we had a fair bit of Kino, just short of kissing.
One of the days, we had a long discussion about relationships out of nowhere. She mentioned that she is 5 years older than me and that could be an obstacle, however, I guess I was able to jump through this hoop and gave a more than acceptable answer. The last time we met at a party, she made an effort to change her seat, when I entered the room and came and sat next to me. Every time we meet, there is a fair bit of flirting, hand-holding, and kino, etc. In a couple of conversations she has mentioned that, “if it has to happen, it will happen” (i.e. a relationship) and gave positive responses, whenever I have hinted at a relationship. I never directly asked if we should be in a relationship, I was just flirting.
However, she is a very flirtatious, and at some of the parties we have met, does flirt with other guys. I also tend to get an impression that she isn’t as chatty to me at these parties, as she usually is. This is despite the fact that, I have great social proof at these parties. I have more women around me than any other guy. (In fact most guys don’t have any). While some times, she is pretty good at answering texts, other times, she would take ages and a couple of times she hasn’t responded. I usually react in the same manner and delay my responses when needed.
One of the POSSIBLE! reasons, that she isn’t as flirty at the parties could be that she is trying to distinguish herself from the other girls who are with me and make me jealous. On the other hand, it could very well be the fact that, she wants to have fun with me, but keep the other options open.
I am at a point where, I will be leaving this city in a couple of months (and we will never see each other again), so I have to make a move now, or it will be too late. She has given me strong signals suggesting that if I ask her out officially, she would say “Yes”. At the same time, her behaviour in front of others is not as positive as I would expect it to be. I would ideally like to ask her out within the next 4-5 days, and was planning to take her out for a meal and make it official. I would love some advise on, what’s the best way to do this (This is an area I have very little experience with) and how I should play this whole thing.
One of the days, we had a long discussion about relationships out of nowhere. She mentioned that she is 5 years older than me and that could be an obstacle, however, I guess I was able to jump through this hoop and gave a more than acceptable answer. The last time we met at a party, she made an effort to change her seat, when I entered the room and came and sat next to me. Every time we meet, there is a fair bit of flirting, hand-holding, and kino, etc. In a couple of conversations she has mentioned that, “if it has to happen, it will happen” (i.e. a relationship) and gave positive responses, whenever I have hinted at a relationship. I never directly asked if we should be in a relationship, I was just flirting.
However, she is a very flirtatious, and at some of the parties we have met, does flirt with other guys. I also tend to get an impression that she isn’t as chatty to me at these parties, as she usually is. This is despite the fact that, I have great social proof at these parties. I have more women around me than any other guy. (In fact most guys don’t have any). While some times, she is pretty good at answering texts, other times, she would take ages and a couple of times she hasn’t responded. I usually react in the same manner and delay my responses when needed.
One of the POSSIBLE! reasons, that she isn’t as flirty at the parties could be that she is trying to distinguish herself from the other girls who are with me and make me jealous. On the other hand, it could very well be the fact that, she wants to have fun with me, but keep the other options open.
I am at a point where, I will be leaving this city in a couple of months (and we will never see each other again), so I have to make a move now, or it will be too late. She has given me strong signals suggesting that if I ask her out officially, she would say “Yes”. At the same time, her behaviour in front of others is not as positive as I would expect it to be. I would ideally like to ask her out within the next 4-5 days, and was planning to take her out for a meal and make it official. I would love some advise on, what’s the best way to do this (This is an area I have very little experience with) and how I should play this whole thing.
