How to ask her out in this situation without coming across as needy?

[irky]

Ok, I met this gorgeous girl on a party yesterday, a stunning, tall, real HB9. Played it well for about half an hour, but then I think I kind of screwed up - she was talking about how much money she will be making in the future and I said "cool, I can marry you and then divorce you a week later and take half of your money." She laughed and everything was ok, but a few minutes later, she called me out on this and told other girls (my friends) who were around that I just said that I wanted to marry her. In this moment, I was already a little drunk and didn't want others to think I said something like that, so I lost my sh*t and said (not sure if jokingly enough), that I really need her (BIG MISTAKE), because she's going to be rich in the future (I also think I didn't say it in a very cool way). At the top of it, one of my female "friends" said that "she will give me lessons on how to get better with women" (what a f*cking b*tch ). In that moment, I felt that my value completely vanished.

I can add her on Facebook and also I also have her businesscard, which she gave to me and to my female friend (before I screwed up), because she was talking about her business.

And my question is, should I bother asking her out after this (I definitely would if it was a cold approach, but she knows some people from my social circle and I don't want to look like a needy idiot) and if yes, how to do it in a way that will not come across as needy (because after this fail, I cannot think of a way that wouldn't come across as needy) and if for some weird reason she agrees, how to play it on the date.

Thanks

 

[amazingJ]

if she's in your social circle, I smell drama

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

It seems like it blew up in your face here a bit, so you must now tread lightly.

Given that, my advice would be to NOT add her on facebook, especially so soon. Yes, I think that will come off as needy and try-hard.

You will need to re-set your interactions with her and the best way to do that is more spontaneously, at a party or music event or whatnot.

Get her isolated and chat her up. Come from a place of high value and treat her like your little sister. Tease her and don't look for validation from her.

And don't make it too long. Leave her wanting more.

Later in the evening, after ignoring her for a little while, re-engage shortly and tell her she should send you a facebook friend request (if, that is, you are bent on using that cursed medium). If she does, take that as a sign of interest, accept, and then a few days later invite her out.

 

[irky]

It seems like it blew up in your face here a bit, so you must now tread lightly.

Given that, my advice would be to NOT add her on facebook, especially so soon. Yes, I think that will come off as needy and try-hard.

You will need to re-set your interactions with her and the best way to do that is more spontaneously, at a party or music event or whatnot.

Get her isolated and chat her up. Come from a place of high value and treat her like your little sister. Tease her and don't look for validation from her.

And don't make it too long. Leave her wanting more.

Later in the evening, after ignoring her for a little while, re-engage shortly and tell her she should send you a facebook friend request (if, that is, you are bent on using that cursed medium). If she does, take that as a sign of interest, accept, and then a few days later invite her out.

Thanks, but I'm probably not going to see her, at least not soon. I mean she's not my friend, I just met her, but some girls from my SC know her. I will upadate the post to make it clearer

 

[TheCWord]

What's the problem with shooting her an email and be like "Hey, how was the rest of your night? Got some time this week to grab a drink of something?"

If she goes along with it then you can forget you even posted this thread. If she doesn't respond or makes excuses then you know it's a lost cause.

You're just wasting your time and energy by analyzing things, wondering how you'll come off, etc...

ASK FOR THE DATE!

That's the only way you'll know.

...Unless you're more comfortable going around in circles in your head, wondering if you blew it, talking about it with strangers on the Internet...

ASK FOR THE ****IN DATE!