How to ask for a girl's number?

[BannedGod]

This has always been a problem with me. I don't know how to ask it. And because I do not know how to ask it, when it comes the time to do so, I become quite nervous. Would something as simple as this work?

Girl I just met: *after some blabla* I'd love to see you again, but now I gotta run so why don't you give me your number?
Girl at work: *after some blabla* I'd love to do something with you outside of work, so why don't you give me your number?


I know I'm putting too much thought into this, but I can't help it. Would this be a good way to ask for a number? I'm guessing it shows the girl I take charge and go for what I want, so it would be good, but is it asked too bluntly?

 

[PlaysToWin]

Why don't approach ten girls in the next week, try your suggested line, and then come back and tell us if it works or not?

(You're problem is not with your choice of lines, it's with your confidence and ability to deliver. The only way you'll improve your confidence and delivery is to go and practice. So stop wasting our time and yours, get your ass out there, ask a hundred girls for their numbers, and then come back and let us know how you got on.)

 

[BannedGod]

Why don't approach ten girls in the next week, try your suggested line, and then come back and tell us if it works or not?

(You're problem is not with your choice of lines, it's with your confidence and ability to deliver. The only way you'll improve your confidence and delivery is to go and practice. So stop wasting our time and yours, get your ass out there, ask a hundred girls for their numbers, and then come back and let us know how you got on.)

I know I do T_T and you are right, I really should. I'm making small steps though, a few months ago I never would have approached any girl, and even less dare to ask their number

And Wolf sounds like a good idea, but I don't think I have the confidence to do just that yet.

 

[thissean]

Its not too hard; what I simply do is just say "Hey look, i need to get going. Let me get your number" After she puts it in, say "I'll give you a call sometime" then make your exit

 

[Vice]

"Let me give you a call sometime, what's your number?"

-OR-

"Hey, I've got to run, let me give you a call sometime, what's your number?"

 

[Mr. Wolf]

YOU: Do you have an e-mail?
HER: Yes.
YOU: Great! Write it down for me. (C&F right there, you mistook her saying yes for ok I can have it)
HER: ***writing it down***
YOU: Put your number there too. (C&F, you want more, and you know she will give it to you)


YOU: Is this your real number, Cindy?
HER: Yea, it's my cell..
YOU: Really? ***calling her on her cell with *69*.

HER: Oh wow, unknown caller.
YOU: Yea, I don't want you stalking me.. Anyway, I'm book through this week, but you never know, keep yourself available!

 

[Obsidian]

There are various ways of asking, but the easiest are...

1. Suggest an activity and see if she sounds interested...then say "Let me get your cell number and I'll give you a call"
2. Or just say you're about to leave...then suddenly remember, "It was good to meet you [name], why I don't get your number in case I want to call you some time"

And always carry your phone with you so you'll be prepared in case you meet some new chick. (A pen works too, but having the phone is better)


Your main problem will be getting over your nervousness. Prior to this semester, I had made pretty much no #-closes in my life. But after reading the Book of Pook and Anti-Dump's Machine, I realized that I needed to start. Over the semester, I've gotten to where my nerves are not that much of an issue during the close.

I'm still working on nervousness a little bit as far as actually making the call goes. It'll probably take you a while to master both, but you'll probably master it within the next year if you really set your mind to it.


Here are the ten posts of Anti-Dump's Machine, btw. A few of them address your issue. And all of them will make you a better man.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39729
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39769
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39785
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39887
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39888
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40188
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40241
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40347
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40698
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=58363

 

[Bigdavis]

A girl is expecting and hoping for you to ask for her number. Just pull your phone out like you're going to dial and say "what's your number" When she gives it to you type it in and hit save. It really is that easy.

Don't go into it assuming she's going to think it's weird. She should be expecting it. If she acts weird screw her... she's the weird one.



P.S. don't ask if she has a boyfriend or if she's seeing anyone... if she is she'll tell you politely when you ask for the number. Chicks know what that means.

 

[meitenesrigas]

Maybe it is due to my lack of respect for people in general, but why would anyone have a problem with asking for something as innocent as a number? You can buy a SIM card with a phone number for $1 these days. I have 10 different numbers myself. It isn't like you are asking her to clean your pipe.

 

[decadentdestruction]

You: *take out phone* Ya know what I am gonna add you (to your contact list) how do you spell your name?

Her: *name*

You: Okay put your number in for me *pass her phone*

Her: Puts in number

(Mission accomplished)

Then I usually continue with:

You: (I have an unusual spelling of my name so I use this) NOW you can only have MY number if you can guess how to spell mine, I'll give you three goes ('cause I'm feeling generous)

And etc. and etc.

good one man , you have inspired me. thank you

 

[DismantleRepair]

Don't ask. Assume the sale - that is, act as though she's already agreed to give it to you/go out with you. Have your cellphone out and ready to punch in the digits.

 

[WhitePimp]

Don't ask. Assume the sale - that is, act as though she's already agreed to give it to you/go out with you. Have your cellphone out and ready to punch in the digits.

Anberlin's awesome! :woo:


One thing that I stumbled upon that was pretty cool was this:

I told a girl that I never call/text people back if the message or text they leave isnt interesting. She practically jumped at the chance to leave an interesting text to me and I gave her my number and she started texting within an hour (turned out to be nuts but it was still an awesome pickup). If you see a girl texting/on the phone, this line is a great opening and a great way to number close.