"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how to ask a girl to prom? or do i even ask?!?!?!?ASAP

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i know this girl semi-well, im sorta a bad conversationalist and stuff so idk i run outta sheet to say. but i wanna go with her to prom so what do i ask her? i do just pull her away in class one day and ask her"will you go with me to prom" or do i sorta order her? like "hey i think you should go to prom with me." advice!??!?!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i would probably do the second option.... but then im afriad there would be an awkward silence and she would walk away.....HELP guys!
 

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do i ask her when theres other ppl around or do i need to isolate? and do i just ask "hey do you wanna go to prom with me"?
 

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I'd do it when its just you two. Girls really think the whole prom thing is special so you don't want to just blurt it all out. Just start a normal convo with her and have it lead into asking her to prom. Trust me man, its not that hard.


EDIT- 100th post
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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What Norway said. Just do it.

You're wasting your time trying to think of the perfect approach. Perfect is boring!
 

kingxxxman

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no the question is whether i actually use those words or not or its like forbidden.
 

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Talk to her for a while. Then say this. 'Okay, listen, I want you to go to the prom with me.' If she agrees, done. If she says no, ask the next best girl and so on. Now go.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just Do It

EDIT - NO, you can NOT use those words. You must be Yoda, or Choda. Thou must say "To prom, with me, you shall go."

Seriously, your words are okay.
 

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We're the DJ community, not the PUA community. We don't have perfect words or sentences or anything. We're men - we just say what we want.
 

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should i sorta lead the conversation in the direction of prom or would discussion of a past sporting event then onto prom question be okay?
 

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JUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUST DOOOOOOOOOOOOOO IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIT.

There are no perfect words. If she likes you, she likes you. That's it.
 

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ha ha yeah bro, just man up and do it. Once you start talking, it's not that hard. You'll fall into your groove right away. :D Best of luck bro!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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okay. i'll just let it flow. im afraid it may ruin a friendship though? or am i just being paranoid? also what if she says no or "im going with someone else" how do i respond to that?
 

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Sh!t, the girls at your guys schools must be really easy to ask a girl to prom if all you do is ask.

At my school the girls are so fvcking high on their pedestal we have to ask them in a very special way. Like one person did a treasure hunt and all the items spelled "PROM?", others sticky note the girls car with Prom all over it.

kingxxxman said:
okay. i'll just let it flow. im afraid it may ruin a friendship though?
It'll only ruin your friendship if you make it awkward if she says no. Your relationship with this girl lies in your own hands.

kingxxxman said:
or am i just being paranoid?
Yes.

kingxxxman said:
also what if she says no or "im going with someone else" how do i respond to that?
You learn from it, you figure out what you did wrong and try to improve on that next time. If she says she's going with someone else don't let her see your weak side. I wont tell you how to respond but I will give you advice on what not to do. Don't get angry, don't get sad, don't be jealous. Just act like it doesn't bother you at all.

Also, you're are over analyzing this. Just ask her...

Funny how I can't follow what I preach.
 

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Dude just simply ask. Really. Two girls already asked me out to prom, I said no BUT I didn't think any less of them or anything. Don't be scared to ask her, don't be a pvssy seriously.
If your scared to ask a simple question then you don't deserve her or even going to prom.
Chumps are afraid of what they want, don't be a chump.
 

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theminatar and stateofmind...thank you for your words.... i finally took action after being apathetic and did it in a "cute way" sorta of chumpy in my opininon but everyone asks" will you go to prom with me" and she told me she would get back to me... W.E i'm happy i did it and i can live with no regrets. thanks guys for the help. hopefully she says yes but im not holdin my breath.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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