"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to ask a girl to become your girlfriend?

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I have meet a girl at my workplace.
We go out together for 3 times.

But I don't know how she is feeling with me, Friend or more.

I am a nice guy for the first 2 dates.

but after I found this site I have changed (not much) using some technique in the DJ Bible.

Now I asked her out but she declined. I don't know why may be she is busy.

The point is I want to go more far than this, 3 dates should be enough to ask her to become my girlfriend right?

I will try asking her to hang out again, if she say YES I will ask her to become my girlfriend.

Do you have any idea on this situation?. any suggestion to ask her?. Am I doing the right thing?

thank you
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sounds like she rejected ya.

You're just going to have to read and absorb more of the DJ Bible.

Getting a chick to be your girlfriend has nothing to do with the number of dates if you're good enough.
 
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Never ask a girl to become your girlfriend, period. Your job is to worry about the sex/adventure and let her worry about the state of your "relationship". Give her good sex and lots of fun and she'll be asking you out. Trust me on that.

Kudos,
Matt
 
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How old are you? 11?

You don't ask a girl to be your "girlfriend". It's something that happens over time.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you read the bible, it will tell you never ask a women to settle down. Also don't let her tie you down, the first time she suggests it. She has to earn it.
 
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Once you stick your dyck in a girl she is yours. All you have to do is controll the situatin from there and led the relationship where you want it to go
 
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Read Anti-Dump's Machine, n00b

Pook can help you if you are willing to take direction:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39729
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39769
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39785
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39887
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=39888
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40188
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40241
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40347
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=40698
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=58363
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Forget Pooks waffle, its quite simple - you don't EVER ask a girl to be your gf, you play it cool until she asks you to be exclusive.

But in this case she did reject you, so thats a huge red flag, and if she didn't give you a firm alternative time to go out then you can throw away the number... NEXT!
 
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OK, I asked her out again today, she rejected.

feeling desperated now, but I will move on.

I am trying to make myself as normal as possible when talking and reacting to her
 
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You don't have to go on X number of dates to be her bf. Don't EVER act like a nice guy the first 2 dates, and then be the badboy that wants to fcuk her,its incongruent.

I don't think you HAVE to fcuk her before you can make her your girlfriend. Although all these PUG/PUM etc on So Suave say that you should make her ask for it/don't ask...I believe that these are NOT rules, but rather very good guidelines(mostly to prevent oneitis); everyone has different reasons for getting into the game. Think about what you want, a shytload of one-night stands, or a relationship or something else. It is a lot easier to get what you want when you KNOW what YOU want.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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nothing wrong with asking. alot of times thats wat alot of girls are waiting for. i know this from experience.

just make sure you know her and she is relationship material. and make sure there's a REAL connection.
 
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Monkey said:
Forget Pooks waffle, its quite simple - you don't EVER ask a girl to be your gf, you play it cool until she asks you to be exclusive.
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You obviously didn't read his initial post very carefully. He said she turned him down. Hence, I suggested he read Anti-Dump's machine so he would understand that it's best to NEXT such women.


charnsak said:
I am trying to make myself as normal as possible when talking and reacting to her
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That's good, but it really doesn't matter how you act toward her from this point onward. She dumped you. You don't ever take her back. You need a high interest, non-flaky woman -- not this girl. Read the links I posted above.
 
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She returned!!!
I don't know why..
After that time, I step out from her (less speakeing to her but not completly ignore).
Yesterday She asked me out for dinner...

I declined but asked her out to somewhere else she accecpted, We cool.

But after I send her home, I was trying to call her but she was not pick up the call.

What happen, :S What should I do, What does she want?
 
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why would a girl wanna be your girlfriend if u and her didn't even kiss yet?

i feel so bad for this guy that i'd actually feel some pain if i were to come down tough on him right now

i just feel so so sorry for u and people who think like u
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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