"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How to ask a girl out who is shy but interested
- Thread starter Haiul
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
if she likes you, she'll agree to go out with you
if she doesn't like you, she won't agree to go out with you
if she doesn't like you, and doesn't like/can't do the date, she'll just say I don't want to/I can't and be done with it
if she likes you but doesn't like/can't do the date, she might just go and not say anything, she might say no but then say yes if you alter the date a bit, she might reschedule, etc.
with all that in mind, don't say something like "will you go out with me", say something like "I haven't been to wendy's in sooooo long, I think I'm gonna go after school today, want to come?" or you can just alter 'want to come?' to 'come with me' or 'you should come with me'
you could also start by asking her opinion of the place/activity like "have you seen X-men:days of future past yet?", "I hear it's good", "want to go see it on Saturday?"
good luck, and try not to show your feelings if she says no, ask her out again later if she gives a legit reason, and realize that girls will never just say "i don't like you, f*** off" you'll have to realize that on your own after she turns down your 2nd/3rd/5th/7th date offer or if she gives an obviously BS/implausible excuse
gideonrakthor
New Member
This sums it up right here.devilkingx2 said: