"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How to ask a girl out who is shy but interested
- Thread starter Haiul
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
if she likes you, she'll agree to go out with you
if she doesn't like you, she won't agree to go out with you
if she doesn't like you, and doesn't like/can't do the date, she'll just say I don't want to/I can't and be done with it
if she likes you but doesn't like/can't do the date, she might just go and not say anything, she might say no but then say yes if you alter the date a bit, she might reschedule, etc.
with all that in mind, don't say something like "will you go out with me", say something like "I haven't been to wendy's in sooooo long, I think I'm gonna go after school today, want to come?" or you can just alter 'want to come?' to 'come with me' or 'you should come with me'
you could also start by asking her opinion of the place/activity like "have you seen X-men:days of future past yet?", "I hear it's good", "want to go see it on Saturday?"
good luck, and try not to show your feelings if she says no, ask her out again later if she gives a legit reason, and realize that girls will never just say "i don't like you, f*** off" you'll have to realize that on your own after she turns down your 2nd/3rd/5th/7th date offer or if she gives an obviously BS/implausible excuse
gideonrakthor
New Member
This sums it up right here.devilkingx2 said: