"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to ask a girl out at my class ?

Pr0lab

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Hey folks,

That's a pretty easy one, I just looking for better way to phrase it.

Background: we at the same class and we chitchat couple of times.
So my question is which one of these sentence would you choose to invite her to a date:

1. You cute, we should go out sometime have some coffee outside school !

2. Hey I like talking to you, we should get together outside school for coffee ! ( and chitchat)

3. We should get together outside school, to get some coffee together (Dinner?)

4. Hey, Would you like to get together for a coffee this weekend !

5. Hey, lets get together for a coffee this weekend !

I know that the wording is not as important as body language but it still matter not to be perceived as not a confident man.


P.S. What do you guys think Coffee Vs. Dinner ?

Thanks Much !
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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intrextrovert

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Yeah, no dinner.

And idk how coffee works around there, if that's cool to do aight. If you want to do the coffee/tea/hot chocolate thang and not sure if she likes coffee or something, just say the cafe you'd go to or whatever.

PS I like 2 best. If you can try to lead that off of something she said that was funny or interesting, cause 2 is phrased like a reward.
 

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"I'm going for a coffee after school, you should come with me."

This is much better than directly asking her.

Dinner is a bad first date, as are movies, for that matter.

You need to have her attracted to you first, or she either won't come, or will come with a "let's just be friends" speech prepared if you make a move.

You need to touch her during the date.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Pr0lab

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Captain said:
"I'm going for a coffee after school, you should come with me."

This is much better than directly asking her.

Dinner is a bad first date, as are movies, for that matter.

You need to have her attracted to you first, or she either won't come, or will come with a "let's just be friends" speech prepared if you make a move.

You need to touch her during the date.
Agree !
but, I know that it is never going to happened, we finish different times and I am working.
 

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Pr0lab said:
I heard that before, but why no dinner?
Because you're in high school and it's a first date. Asking a girl for dinner on a first date, especially in high school is one of the most AFC things to do. You'd probably end up paying for it all on top of it.
 

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Captain Harlock said:
Because you're in high school and it's a first date. Asking a girl for dinner on a first date, especially in high school is one of the most AFC things to do. You'd probably end up paying for it all on top of it.
it's a college
 

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just be like walking out of class, the be like, yo im' cold/thirsty, ima get some hot chocolate, want some? I'll pay. (only say you'll pay as a last resort). luckily for me, when i did it, i had these free hot beverage coupons hehe, so she was like sweet.

just be very casual, like you do it al the time, that way thers no pressure on her, and once u guys are alone then u do watever u wanna do i dono,
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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my thing that i do a lot is to be talking to her and then randomly say "so when are we gunna start hanging out on the weekends?" then she says "well i don't know when are we?" and you say hey howbout on (whatever day you want) we go (whatever type of thing you wanna do). this works really well because it sounds really natural like you didnt really plan it and like its no big deal to you.
 

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"guess what ur going to do this weekend *grins*,ur hanging out with me!"
or something along that line
 

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As Giacobe says, show her that you have the energy and is different compared to all the other guys, "dominate" her so she really dosn't have a choice.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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