How to ask a friend...

[unknowntim3]

Hey i was just laying in bed and thinkign here and wondering on what u guys would say about this...

There is this girl ive been hanging out with for awhile now off and on and shes really cool and i need to get it out of her whether or not she has any more feelings for me other than just friends, cause ive been getting misked signals for awhile now and its really getting to me ...

. ive posted on this b4 here and its all leading up to it, i just have to do it... but heres another thing..

Should i just come right out and be like " hey "name" , do you only see us as friends?" and wait for her response and see what i should say next or should it just be... " hey, do you only see us as friends or would u ever see us as anything more then friends?" ...

and depending on the awnser, if its not what i want to hear, i can always just say i was wondering and its no big deal, no hard feelings

let me get some advice here, thx

 

[AC/DC]

No, don't ask that question!

It will end up bad, I guarantee it. Invite her for ice cream instead, and have her TELL you what she wants from you .

 

[Sammo]

We have all experienced something like this one time or another, feeling something for a friend is a horrible experience. Your not alone, countless other men have felt this. What you need to do is ask her out on a date as if she was just another prospect, "Hey, X(girls name), why dont you come along with me to, Y(location of date) this Z(day of date)".

Then you will find out if she truely likes you or not, it's the only way to really know. If she says no then get over it, dont waste time thinking about ways you could make it up with her.

 

[blienk]

First of all, this girl is not an idiot, she's going to know your agenda from the second you ask the question. Forget the "I was just wondering" line, it's not going to fool anybody.

Second, this just isn't a great idea to begin with. Do you have any real signs that this girl wants to be more than just friends? Don't say she flirts with you sometimes; all male/female friends flirt sometimes. Unless you have some real indication that this girl wants you, think of her as a friend and look for ass elsewhere.

 

[unknowntim3]

yeah ic...

well asking her to just go out is nothing cause we go out and do stuff alot together, not very much JUST me and her but some of her friends and stuff, like last night, she called and said she was comin to get me out of no where, so i said ok, got dressed and she was here... it was this guy i know and his g/f and me and her... we went and ate and then went to her hosue and just watched some movies...

nothing ever really seems like she watns me tho like your sayin, it just seems like its not for sure, i dotn know, mixed signals and what... and like when we went to her house, she didnt even coem sit by me, she sat next to her sister and played with her dogs... so i dont know =\

I do wish there was a way i could just tell her tho that i have more feelings for her... i would imagine she should know by now but not sure

so ill see what happens, i guess ill just forget about her for a bit, and see if SHE comes to me or see if shes going to start giving me any more attension then normal ...

other wise, i like hanging out her and stuff and wouldnt want to lose her as a friend if everything went wrong

i hate these situations =\

 

[Best friends? NAY]

tease more/ flirt more/ kino more.........see what happends

 

[unknowntim3]

hmm yes ill have to work on it here =\

 

[Biphoria]

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=43190

 

[unknowntim3]

yeah shame ive know this girl for about a month or 2, not near 10 years, not near a year.

 

[LikRetsam]

After heavy kino try to get the kiss. If she turns away just say "At some point we need to stop with the games... is there more to this than just friendship?"

 

[SnatchJP]

One thing to remember is that most girls our age aren't totally secure in themselves; she may be only slightly interested in you now, but I can garuntee that if you ask her out one on one her IL will go up. I garuntee it.

Don't even think of it as a date. Just go grab some cofee or something.

 

[Don Ronny]

I could give my 2 cents here, but Mr. Fingers said it best

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?threadid=43174