"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to approach when surrounded by friends...?

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Jin

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ok... I was at a pool house (billiards) and many a fine chicks come in there as its really close to the college and what-have-you...

anyway... the problem I'm having is not approaching them or talking to them... its getting to that point. I see chicks come in with like 4-5 girl and guy friends all the time.. very rarely do they ever come solo or 2 at a time.

So how do you approach when you have all these barriers..?

one part of me says "Just walk up there and start some small talk" kinda thing... if i do that, she'll either think....

a) I have massive confidence and balls (which I have no problem doing, if thats what I should do)

or

b) she'll feel annoyed cause shes with all her friends and doesn't want to be bothered.

and I aslo fell weird about going up to a girl thats surrounded by 3-4 other guys.. whats the strategy on that...?

and one more thing... sorry guys, last question.... ;)

there was this hb8.5 that came in with some friends (both m and f variety) and as I'm walking to the bathroom I pass her and she gives me LOOOOONG eye contact as I walk by her.... I just smile and wink as I walk past her thinking "Score!!"

so I walk back to my table where we were having a game and I keep an eye on her and I see her glancing my way a couple times.. then she gets into some trouble with the security or some other BS and she decides to leave... so I walk over to her near the door and say.....

"Your leaving already..!? I didn't get a chance to introduce myself yet... Hi my names Jin"

"Tizzyiana (I know, stripper name or some sh!t)"

so I'm try to talk to her but she has all these friends around her talking to her at the same time and shes kinda telling my why shes pissed and has to leave and all this crap on why they're throwing her out and what-not... but she says....

"give me your number and I'll give you a call..."

"Ok... (writes down number), but only if I get yours..."

then she gets distracted by all these people and she keeps playing around with her cell and I'm holding this pen and paper like an idiot
it feels like I'm waiting my turn to get her attention..... so after about 45 seconds of being ignored I just walk away...

now... what should I have done differently..? should I just grab her shoulders and say "Now...... focus.... focus....... look at me... there you go..... now..... your number...(hold out paper and pen)" or did I do the right thing and walk away... ? she seemed like an attention wh0re cause she kept going to all these guys and jumping on them and giving hugs and crap.... so in the end I wa kinda glad I didn't get her number...

but man that was a fine piece of @ss!! :D

thanks for any and all replies...

Best,

Jin
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If she's with girls then do a group oickup and use your pool mates as wingmen. If she's in a mixed group wait till she separats and go engage her specifically.
Good luck and good hunting.
 
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one problem with that...

the people I play with are not really my "friends" actually they're mostly alot older... 30's and 40's (what can I say, I'm pretty good at pool)

and I've only been back home for 2-3 months so I havn't really made any "friends" yet.. I also travel back and forth between Miami alot on the weekends for buisness.. so I have a hard time meeting guys and what-not

and of the guys i do know, none of them would understand DJ principels and neg-hits and even bieng a wingman so I almost exclusivly fly solo...

so the questions till stands... how does a lone guy approach a girl with many people around her...? aside from trying to catch her when shes alone.

Best,

Jin
 
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then she gets distracted by all these people and she keeps playing around with her cell and I'm holding this pen and paper like an idiot
it feels like I'm waiting my turn to get her attention..... so after about 45 seconds of being ignored I just walk away...
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ROFL!!!!!!! That was hilarious! Had me laughing to the point of tears. Just picturing you standing there holidn pencil and paper while being ignored.

Anyway, you did the right thing. Walking away shows her you've got better things to do than just sit there and feed her attention cravings like every other guy around her.
 
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Basically you do what that one part of you feels you should do, basically do what you want to, you know deep down you want to go over and talk to the girl when shes still with her group, stop thinking and asking us what might happen and do it and find out for yourself what happens.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just make a general statement or ask them a question to get all of their attention.

Once you've got that attention proceed to game them . After that start to read their bodylanguage as to whom has the highest IL,the lowest and witch is being a cold b1tch(if there is a group of more than 3 girls you can bet your azz one of them will feel left out and insecure.)

Then focus on the ones you perfer without letting the other ones lack of interest bother you.


The whole trick of it is that. TO NOT LET THE B!TCH OF THE GROUP SCARE YOU AWAY.
 
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