"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to approach this ?

Yorkex

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Last month I met my ex girl from highschool, went hanged out for a bit , everything seems normal. Mind you this is after 4 years of not been together. After a while we started having sex , I even took her to a hotel and pumped her for the weekend.

I noticed something was off but I didn't speak on it. Last weekend she finally brought it up the she has a boyfriend that they started dating 4-5 months ago. At first I was shocked then I just dismissed it. She messaged me 2 days ago and told me about how she is on break with her boyfriend and he is trying to make it work but she is not sure.

I just told her , she has a choice to make and I hope it pays off for her & i had something to say but his is not the right timing. I wanted to blast her for lying to sleep with me knowing she has a boyfriend ( at least let me know ) but I just said whatever not my problem. Last night she messaged me this :

Her : what did you want to say I've been thinking about it all day.
Me: I already did in short , I hope it pays off & the rest can wait because it's not important.
Her: Hmm Alright , if you say so

Point of action here ? Ignore& Go NC or blast her for lying to me then go NC ?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Between_The_Lines

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Don't tear her a new one. It's not like you guys are married and you caught her cheating on you. You'll learn a lot from hanging around this message board, and an important one to internalize is to always keep cool. Let your actions do the talking. You don't like what you see? Walk away.

I'd keep her at a distance. You don't know if her boyfriend is a nut, and even if he's as harmless as an infant, it's still not a habit (enabling cheating) that you want to ingrain (which it seems like you already understand - good). Go NC just to prevent yourself from getting caught up in a sticky situation and further involved with a low quality girl.
 

Yorkex

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Between_The_Lines said:
Don't tear her a new one. It's not like you guys are married and you caught her cheating on you. You'll learn a lot from hanging around this message board, and an important one to internalize is to always keep cool. Let your actions do the talking. You don't like what you see? Walk away.

I'd keep her at a distance. You don't know if her boyfriend is a nut, and even if he's as harmless as an infant, it's still not a habit (enabling cheating) that you want to ingrain (which it seems like you already understand - good). Go NC just to prevent yourself from getting caught up in a sticky situation and further involved with a low quality girl.
Thanks, I think I will just cool off and ignore.
 
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