Saw this girl in the train, got off at the same station. About to approach her, but she started calling her friend right after we got off the train. I followed her for a little to see if she got off the phone, but she kept talking, and she walked quit fast... I don't want to look like a crazy stalker so I stopped. Felt very bad that I didn't approach her, but I don't know what to do in this kind of situation. What would you do?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How to approach girls listening to music/on the phone?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Maximus Rex
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There has to be a way to do this sh*t. Of the top of my head, it seems a possible method would be to go go in with no f*cks given and just start campaigning. You might be as bold ask who she's talking to, ask can you speak to "x" person, and if she gives you the phone, introduce yourself to "x" person and say the chick is going to call you back and hang up the phone, then proceed on with your campaign.
There has to be a way to do this sh*t. Of the top of my head, it seems a possible method would be to go go in with no f*cks given and just start campaigning. You might be as bold ask who she's talking to, ask can you speak to "x" person, and if she gives you the phone, introduce yourself to "x" person and say the chick is going to call you back and hang up the phone, then proceed on with your campaign.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
If you gotta interrupt her then just interrupt her.
Personally, I'd just move on with my day. Go talk to a girl who doesn't have her face buried in a phone. I mean, you're only talking to her because she looks good, right? So, if that's the only standard you're going by, I'm sure you can find a good looking girl who's actually in a position to be approached.
Plenty of fish in the sea, etc, etc.
Personally, I'd just move on with my day. Go talk to a girl who doesn't have her face buried in a phone. I mean, you're only talking to her because she looks good, right? So, if that's the only standard you're going by, I'm sure you can find a good looking girl who's actually in a position to be approached.
Plenty of fish in the sea, etc, etc.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
Make eye contact. Smile. Look for iois. If she gives them ( smile, shy look away,etc) you got the green light to interrupt.
Do this with all my approaches cause typically a female has headphones on.
Maintain frame and it works like a charm
Do this with all my approaches cause typically a female has headphones on.
Maintain frame and it works like a charm
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Peaks&Valleys
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LOL. This reminded me of the movie Mr. Jones. I remember seeing it in high school, it was okay, but parts of the movie made me want to be like this guy. He had bipolar disorder, but when he was having his highs, he was awesome, and as bold as could be, with definitely no f*cks given.Maximus Rex said:
Watch just the first 1:10 of the clip. After that it's gay.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oc7XozMbR9A
EDIT: Yeah, it's old and a little cheezy, but he ends up banging that blonde in the beginning.
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Packers2010
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roll up on girl and tap her on the shoulder
me: excuse me
her: what
Me: hey I just had to talk to you, you look pretty cute, What are you listening too. ( use whatever opener you want for this, I just came up with this on the spot)
me: excuse me
her: what
Me: hey I just had to talk to you, you look pretty cute, What are you listening too. ( use whatever opener you want for this, I just came up with this on the spot)
Vice
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You just have to be direct. Tap her on the shoulder to get her attention. She'll take them off to see what you have to say.
I've approached girls that were talking on the phone with their friends and had them HANG UP to talk to me.
To OP: It's possible you may have spooked her, which is why she walked away fast and on the phone (to discourage you). I wasn't there though, so she might have just been in a hurry.
I've approached girls that were talking on the phone with their friends and had them HANG UP to talk to me.
To OP: It's possible you may have spooked her, which is why she walked away fast and on the phone (to discourage you). I wasn't there though, so she might have just been in a hurry.
It might be true. I told my friend the girl sitting opposite of us was cute then he looked at her right away... she probably noticed that.Vice said:
Or she just needed to talk to her friend coz she was wearing them when she got on the train.
Go up to her directly example from her side.
Say something at this point she'll look at you even though she can't hear you anyway.
When she realizes point to your ear. This will communicate to her to take her earphones off
She taken her ear phones off. Now your in.
Say something at this point she'll look at you even though she can't hear you anyway.
When she realizes point to your ear. This will communicate to her to take her earphones off
She taken her ear phones off. Now your in.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
senorslacker4shoa
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Be socially aware and direct
Does she have a serious look on her face / what is she talking about is it a serious conversation? Yes ? Leave her alone. If not then just go up and start talking to her... If you are not sure then ask " hey is that an important call?"
Don't be the ******* that interrupts a call with her mom about a funeral or a conferance call to beijing with an important client. How would you feel.
Show you are socially aware, but that you are interested and have to talk to her.
Or just don't give a ****... most girls are always talking on the phone listening to music 24 / 7 anyways so why are you going to wait to talk to her... are you really that compliant...Don't give a **** but be aware of the consequences if it is something important...she'll let you know...+ going up and talking to a girl on the phone shows u have F***** balls....do it...:crazy:
Does she have a serious look on her face / what is she talking about is it a serious conversation? Yes ? Leave her alone. If not then just go up and start talking to her... If you are not sure then ask " hey is that an important call?"
Don't be the ******* that interrupts a call with her mom about a funeral or a conferance call to beijing with an important client. How would you feel.
Show you are socially aware, but that you are interested and have to talk to her.
Or just don't give a ****... most girls are always talking on the phone listening to music 24 / 7 anyways so why are you going to wait to talk to her... are you really that compliant...Don't give a **** but be aware of the consequences if it is something important...she'll let you know...+ going up and talking to a girl on the phone shows u have F***** balls....do it...:crazy: