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How to approach/fix bad situation?

AlexK

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Well guys, I found myself in a situation and I decided to register on this site and get some advice. Let me preface my questions by saying that I am not bad with women at all and I often attract very good looking women on a fairly regular basis. That said....historically speaking, I've always gotten by on my looks alone and never really developed socially, allowing me to read and understand women better. So that's what brings me here and I'll try and make this short and sweet.

In April of this year, I was seeing a girl who I was very attracted to. This was still at the early stages of a "relationship" and everything was going great until we had a massive blowout. I was pretty drunk and she had been drinking wine and she was getting pretty emotional. Anyways, as I was grabbing us some more drinks some random girl approached me and started talking to me. I politely brushed her off but this slight interaction was the catalyst for what transpired later. Basically, we started arguing for the entire night to the point that I let her know we were leaving the club. During the drive home it began to escalate immensely to the point where we both lost our cool and began screaming at each other. Upon arriving at her apartment she was basically refusing to leave my car until I apologized for some of the things I said to her in the car. I yelled at her, grabbed her forcefully by the arm and pulled her out of the car. She ran in the house crying and I left. The next day she basically said I was a monster, was never treated like that by a man and never wanted to see me again. I apologized to her for my behavior and never texted her again.

Now this past Sunday, I get a random text from her asking me why I had to do that and how much she misses me. Once again, I apologized and asked her if she would want to try again. She said she was afraid and I once again apologized and asked her to give it another shot, meet up, etc etc. she simply replied, "we will see". I haven't texted her since. How do I approach this situation from here? What step should I take next and what should I text her? Ideally I would like to see her again and I am fully aware that my behavior was inappropriate. I'd really like to get another shot with this girl, as we had a lot of fun and a mutual attraction to each other. I should also add, I never blew up her phone with texts, didn't beg or any of that nonsense. I pretty much apologized and told her to take care. Also, this chick hasn't put my life on hold or anything...I'm still meeting women and having fun, I'm just looking for advice as to what I can text or say to her next. Thanks in advance for any responses I get.
 

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I assume you understand how you made her feel and if you like her I assume you don't want to make her feel afraid of you. You probably have to actually feel the regret of that, she doesn't seem to believe your apology.

You can't let that happen again and you gotta know what to do if you feel tempted to get physical. Then you have to tell her you understand how it made her feel and you won't do it again, but you have to really mean it and put effort into it. If she doesn't trust you after that then tell you need her to trust you and give you another chance to actually prove you're serious about what you say. Tell her you don't want her to be afraid of you and you only want to have fun like you had before, or anything else positive you have in common.
 
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