How to approach chicks you don't know?

[9Volt]

How do you approach chicks you don't know and feel nervous approaching?

Easy. Think of them as someone you already know. Family member, friend, etc.

You don't get nervous talking to family and friends do you. So just think of the person as someone you already know.


Bada bing.

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

Such sage advice. Thanks for cluttering the forum with junk.

 

[9Volt]

Such sage advice. Thanks for cluttering the forum with junk.

Ample evidence on the forums of dudes unable to approach chicks like a normal human being.

Stick to over analyzing a simple phone call and stop cluttering my thread with your hurt feelings.

 

[Urbanyst]

Its really easy to approach women. Its only hard if you make the outcome a big deal.

I'm looking to bring a new woman into my world when I approach. So if I start talking to her and she comes in.. then I feel a connection and want to see her again. But if I talk to her and she rejects my world or tries to bring me into her world.. then I cut my losses and move on.

You can't look at approaching women as if you are not on the same level. You have to think of yourself as equal to her or greater. When guys are nervous to approach its because they view the woman as greater than them or on a higher level.

 

[Serenity]

Even simpler, dismiss the fearful thoughts and just do it. To approach someone is all about just doing it.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

It requires a lot of superficial crap to work. You need to be very aesthetically pleasing. If you aren't, you need to have some good social proof and gotta be having a good time with your friends at that moment and then start talking to her as if you want her to join your fun. If not that, you need to have a reason to talk to her. If you don't then you are very likely to be fvcked and probably aren't going to get very far. I think this is more prominent in the more city-like places. But cold appraches aren't very efficient to be honest. How doy you guys meet your women?

 

[wifehunter]

I like to use my comic frame. It gets them warmed up quick. Tone of voice, on opening, is key.

"Hi, wha-sappening?" (I go for the Mexican cholo, or eastern European accents here. The New York gangster accent comes later. Chicks love that one!)

 

[Roober]

Its really easy to approach women. Its only hard if you make the outcome a big deal.

I'm looking to bring a new woman into my world when I approach. So if I start talking to her and she comes in.. then I feel a connection and want to see her again. But if I talk to her and she rejects my world or tries to bring me into her world.. then I cut my losses and move on.

You can't look at approaching women as if you are not on the same level. You have to think of yourself as greater. When guys are nervous to approach its because they view the woman as greater than them or on a higher level.

Minor correction! You are a prince, she is lucky to have your attention.

 

[bigneil]

How do you approach chicks you don't know and feel nervous approaching?

Easy. Think of them as someone you already know. Family member, friend, etc.

You don't get nervous talking to family and friends do you. So just think of the person as someone you already know.

Bada bing.

Great idea! 9Volt's auntie always gives him a big hug so why won't hot women at the bar? Incest is best!

And she throws in a Bada bing and emoticon to underscore the feminine side she continues to embrace. Good God. Gay alert.

 

[btownbuck2012]

OP's advice sounds good in theory but it won't do sh*t for guys with extreme approach anxiety.

The only way to get good at cold approaching is to do it consistently. I've noticed that when I'm out cold approaching if I do enough of em and get shot down enough you'll reach a point where you transcend any type of fear socially. At that point when you no longer give a f*ck what people think (and again for me this has always come after a string of brutal, harsh rejections or f*ck ups) you simply realize that the worst thing isn't that bad and you feel amazing - and suddenly you're magnetic. It's a hard feeling to describe but the guys who have experienced it will know exactly what I'm talking about.

 

[bigneil]

When girls like you they will say "Hey! Are you by yourself? Come sit with us!!"

 

[SmooveMooves]

"Hi"

 

[9Volt]

OP's advice sounds good in theory but it won't do sh*t for guys with extreme approach anxiety.

The only way to get good at cold approaching is to do it consistently. I've noticed that when I'm out cold approaching if I do enough of em and get shot down enough you'll reach a point where you transcend any type of fear socially. At that point when you no longer give a f*ck what people think (and again for me this has always come after a string of brutal, harsh rejections or f*ck ups) you simply realize that the worst thing isn't that bad and you feel amazing - and suddenly you're magnetic. It's a hard feeling to describe but the guys who have experienced it will know exactly what I'm talking about.

If dudes with extreme approach anxiety can't even say hi to a chick while thinking as if they know her they aren't going to run around mass approaching like an insane spambot. even if they did they'd look like a complete lunatic.

then again a lot of desperate gullible dudes never learn from the ample evidence of game failing yet continue to invest in it.

 

[9Volt]

Great idea! 9Volt's auntie always gives him a big hug so why won't hot women at the bar? Incest is best!

And she throws in a Bada bing and emoticon to underscore the feminine side she continues to embrace. Good God. Gay alert.

hilarious when neil is the one playing daddy to damaged low quality girls at the stripper clubs he gives his money away at

 

[bigneil]

Speaking of daddy, here we have 9Yold who needs a hug from auntie (she always tells him how handsome he is).

 

[9Volt]

neil approaches chicks he doesn't know with his perv cam and fistfuls of payola while they dance on stage.

$$$IMP photography service

low quality strippers with daddy issues tell neil how much they love him while he takes perv pics and gives them extra spending money

 

[9Volt]

neil approaches chicks he doesn't know with his perv cam and fistfuls of payola while they dance on stage.

$$$IMP photography service.

low quality strippers with daddy issues tell neil how much they love him while he takes perv pics and gives them extra spending money

 

[9Volt]

Such sage advice. Thanks for cluttering the forum with junk.

legend approaches his keyboard to spam low quality chicks on pof then approaches ss to talk high quality and value daydreams.

 

[AlphaNate]

I'm less comfortable having a conversation with my family than with a stranger. Might sound weird, but it's true.

We tend to generalize women so we have an easier time understanding them, but you're generalizing us here.

 

[bigneil]

Funny how welfare parasites say it's ok for the Government take 33% of my money and give it to black, Latina and Muslim women, but if I spend 3% of my income spoiling a young Irish, Swedish or Russian woman then she's a prostitute (see Melania). How dare I promote hot women??