"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How To Approach a Girl In a Club With O.A.T - Field Report

Allurre

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I should've actually posted this in this section :O

Here’s a live field report which I recently documented for my readers and thought I should share on here

It explains how I use my Open & Tease (O.A.T) Approach.

The other night, I was out with the boys partying at Kao Sarn Road – which is notoriously known as an expat-dominated district with strings of bars/clubs here in Bangkok, Thailand.

You’ll find women from all over the globe on this street.

Anyways, we headed over to the trance/techno club which went by the name “The Club.” – It’s one of the hottest in this area, with state-of-the-art sound system and high powered strobe lighting setup etc.

After buying our buckets of local made whiskey (Sangsom) mixed with coke and Redbull, I scope the scene and my eyes stop at this table with 4 of the finest Korean women (tourists.)

They were wilding out; one put her foot on the table and teasingly lifted her skirt up her legs, another start grinding provocatively with her back to the wall.

Surely, every table around them was watching.

While chilling with the boys two tables away, I see at least 5-6 guys approach these women within the span of 15 minutes.

What happened? All got rejected.

20 minutes go by, and the girls seem to have reached a point of exhaustion from all that swaying and screaming.

One of the girl’s in the Chanel top which I had my eyes on , was leaning back on her couch with her head pulled back.

It seemed like she was falling asleep. I even caught her yawning.

Either they are really tired from all that dancing, or they were straight up bored.

So I did what I had to do and approached.


*THE APPROACH*

So, here’s what I would did.

I walked right up to the girl with the white top, let her see me incoming, took the vacant seat right next to her, and sat myself down.

Then, I curiously ask her… “Do you always sleep when you come to a club?”

Her: (Springs upright, smiles, and embarrassingly giggles) Hahaha, no no no, I’m just a bit tired.

Me: I see. Tired of rejecting all those guys? (I gesture towards the men around us)

Her: (laughs) That too!

Me: Well that’s very nice of you. You come to Kao Sarn Road and generously hand out rejections. Are you getting paid to do that?

Her: Hahahaa no!

Me: (Smiles) Well hey, I’m Andrew. What's your name?

And from that point on, we just hit it off. I meet, handshake, and exchange hellos with her friends after, the drink continues flowing, and we dance the night away.

*THE RECAP*

So here’s what I happened.

1. Before stepping up to the plate, I made observation and caught her on the verge of falling asleep. I then took advantage of this situation immediately as my opening call since this was something I can tease her about.

In a sense, I used her own actions against her and it worked beautifully.

2. I went in with no expression of ‘interest.’

This gave me a better impression at first glance. Right off the bat, my opener communicated to her that I wasn't like the other guys, so in essence, seeing me was more refreshing compared to others.

I did not walk in with the standard approach of “What’s your name?” “Are you from Korea?” – which is what the other guys most likely asked first. I could tell my reading their lips.

So, next time you’re at the club...

Observe, go in for the kill, and just blend in naturally.

Now of course, there are plenty more methods on how to approach a girl, but this is just one of the many methods that have proven effective for me, and hopefully you can make good use of it too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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That is what i do too. Opening with a tease of some sort would be great, or else settle for a comment or anything other than the usual "what's your name". It's straightforward, breaks the ice immediately and then you get to work your game.

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