"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How To Approach a Girl In a Club With O.A.T - Field Report

Allurre

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Here’s a live field report which I recently documented for my readers and thought I should share on here :)

It explains how I use my Open & Tease (O.A.T) Approach.

The other night, I was out with the boys partying at Kao Sarn Road – which is notoriously known as an expat-dominated district with strings of bars/clubs here in Bangkok, Thailand.

You’ll find women from all over the globe on this street.

Anyways, we headed over to the trance/techno club which went by the name “The Club.” – It’s one of the hottest in this area, with state-of-the-art sound system and high powered strobe lighting setup etc.

After buying our buckets of local made whiskey (Sangsom) mixed with coke and Redbull, I scope the scene and my eyes stop at this table with 4 of the finest Korean women (tourists.)

They were wilding out; one put her foot on the table and teasingly lifted her skirt up her legs, another start grinding provocatively with her back to the wall.

Surely, every table around them was watching.

While chilling with the boys two tables away, I see at least 5-6 guys approach these women within the span of 15 minutes.

What happened? All got rejected.

20 minutes go by, and the girls seem to have reached a point of exhaustion from all that swaying and screaming.

One of the girl’s in the Chanel top which I had my eyes on , was leaning back on her couch with her head pulled back.

It seemed like she was falling asleep. I even caught her yawning.

Either they are really tired from all that dancing, or they were straight up bored.

So I did what I had to do and approached.


*THE APPROACH*

So, here’s what I would did.

I walked right up to the girl with the white top, lets her see me incoming, and I took the vacant seat right next to her and sat myself down.

I curiously ask her… “Do you always sleep when you come to a club?”

Her: (Springs upright, smiles, and embarrassingly giggles) Hahaha, no no no, I’m just a bit tired.

Me: I see. Tired of rejecting all those guys? (I gesture towards the men around us)

Her: (laughs) That too!

Me: Well that’s very nice of you. You come to Kao Sarn Road and generously hand out rejections. Are you getting paid to do that?

Her: Hahahaa no!

Me: (Smiles) Well hey, I’m Andrew. What's your name?

And from that point on, we just hit it off. I meet, handshake, and exchange hellos with her friends after, the drink continues flowing, and we dance the night away.

*THE RECAP*

So here’s what I happened.

1. Before stepping up to the plate, I made observation and caught her on the verge of falling asleep. I then took advantage of this situation immediately as my opening call since this was something I can tease her about.

In a sense, I used her own actions against her and it worked beautifully.

2. I went in with no expression of ‘interest.’

This gave me a better impression at first glance. Right off the bat, my opener communicated to her that I wasn't like the other guys, so in essence, seeing me was more refreshing compared to others.

I did not walk in with the standard approach of “What’s your name?” “Are you from Korea?” – which is what the other guys most likely asked first. I could tell my reading their lips.

So, next time you’re at the club...

Observe, go in for the kill, and just blend in naturally.


Now of course, there are plenty more methods on how to approach a girl, but this is just one of the many methods that have proven effective for me, and hopefully you can make good use of it too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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JCballin88

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In this topic: the 3-second rule gets blown to shreds.

I always thought that rule was pretty stupid.
 

Allurre

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Not that it was my intention lol, but I do believe that the 3-second rule does create unnecessary pressure on some men. The upside however, is that it imposes a sense of urgency to actually get the guy to make a move.
 

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The 3-second rule is useful for guys that have trouble approaching women. Once you get over that you shouldn't apply it to yourself.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I like the way you addressed the rejection before she has a chance to give it to you. Thats really good! Way to take a negative thing, and turn it into a positive.
 

Allurre

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horaholic said:
I like the way you addressed the rejection before she has a chance to give it to you. Thats really good! Way to take a negative thing, and turn it into a positive.
Thank you.

In my opinion, rejections CANNOT occur if you don't provide stimulus for it.

:)
 
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