How to appear busy - not always reply to texts/calls etc

[Mr.Fantastic]

I have been seeing this girl for a few weeks now, every time i see her we have a good time, and it usually leads to sex. The thing is, I have been seeing her on average about 3 times a week, and she texts me just about every day. Now, after reading posts about 'be a challenge' etc I am not always replying to her messages, and havn't always picked up the phone when she calls. I don't want to seem too keen, but at the same time I don't want to treat her badly. I last saw her on thursday (it is now sunday) and since then I have texted her about once or twice. Didnt return her call yesterday...anyway, she gave me a text 'are you just gonna text me at random times and never ask me out again, shall I give up?' at this point i gave her a ring, we chatted about random stuff, and i said i would see her on tuesday. She said that she thought i was basically trying to get rid of her, I said i have been busy and not near my phone too much. She sorta jokingly said that i needed to make it up to her...

there are a few more little text related things i have done to mix it up a bit, i will write them up if anyone is interested, but i know long posts are boring to read.

My question is this: how do I remain a challenge and not hurt her by not texting etc? I mean she only texts me stuff like 'hey, what you upto? how was your day' n stuff, and I mean if i keep her updated on everything i do then its gonna get stale fast right? I gotta keep her guessing havn't i?

How do you guys that preach 'dont always reply to messages, and have several girls on the go' go about doing this?

 

[sexxyback]

the best way to appear busy is to actually be busy

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Two things:

1. Stop being a slave to technology
2. Have a personal life.

Just because a person texts, emails or calls, you aren't obligated to answer; especially if you are busy.

If you have a personal life it's easy not to always answer your digital device because you are busy doing something. Doing something does not include waiting around for someone to send you a message.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

the best way to appear busy is to actually be busy

Damn! Beat me to it.
Good answer though. Its the truth.

Props.

 

[Jay Jay]

The two DJs above have given great advise.

If you are just "pretending" to be busy its going to **** up on you... simple. You'll still be investing energy into her and will make you outcome dependant and emotionally attached. If you are busy you remain emotionally incontrol.

Here's the thing about being a challenge. Its not a battle that you have to win. If she wants you then making it challenging is conterproductive.

Concepts often get confused when they have just been read and not practiced.

As long as you really are busy, living your own life,maintaining your independance and in your interactions with her refuse to be submissive you WILL be a challenge... don't worry, she'll give you plenty of opportunity to prove you're not a *****.

JJ

 

[Obsidian]

wise advice

But aside from making sure to have a life of your own, I would say to keep doing pretty much what you're doing. If she's so crazy that she can't stand not seeing you everyday, then she's basically...well, crazy.

 

[Buck Rogers]

seeing a chick 3 times a week, having sex with the chick 3 times a week, her texting you every day says to me:

She thinks shes in a relationship.

back off dude, switch the mobile phone off, go work out, anything, go to the pub.