Hello all on SS, I just signed up for the forum but I have been following it for some months and Ive found some really valuable info that has helped me grow as a man and how to properly deal with women situations; however Im still on the process of changing my behaviors and mindset from before.. I have to share a situation that I need help.
I met this girl on Match nearly two months ago, from the get go she has been down to earth and things went smooth, from then we connected through Facebook and then we exchanged numbers, one day without so much anticipation I asked her out for a drink and she accepted for that same day,, the first date went great a lot of Kino, chemistry and kissing. After that we stayed in communication, sometimes she initiated others me,, and in more than one occasion I pushed it maybe further in that need to communicate daily (I know very afc), the dates kept going approximately 5 more and some escalating was done, I did not push completely for sex in the beginning since many of my previous experiences with other women we had sex fast and then for different reasons things didn’t work out, I wanted to show this girl that I wanted something serious and I didn't show I was desperate for sex but I did escalate. In between of all these dates most of the initiating was done by me to go out and she would 90 percent of the time agree and even further we would go 50/50 to pay; however, I got tired of me always initiating to meet something she wouldn’t do. Therefore; I went no contact and stopped communication. When I stopped, she would get in touch with me with stupid things like saying hi or asking me something about me once in a while and I kept my position.
Then she stopped communicating as well and a month or so went by with no communication and yesterday I decided to send her a text saying that I didn’t know what happened but I wanted to say hi and hoping everything was well and she answered that she didn't know either and was as well hoping I was fine. I told her I would like to have a coffee with her she answered she would love to and we agreed for Wednesday.
I'm not sure now how to act or if it has been the right thing, acknowledging that she does not have a bf, she has acted different than many women in the way always thinking about paying her part in our dates, she is also very independent, very dedicated to her job and goes to school which is very important for me in terms of a woman I want for a LTR. But that pride part or waiting for my initiation most of the time is what has bothered me. I would appreciate your input.
I met this girl on Match nearly two months ago, from the get go she has been down to earth and things went smooth, from then we connected through Facebook and then we exchanged numbers, one day without so much anticipation I asked her out for a drink and she accepted for that same day,, the first date went great a lot of Kino, chemistry and kissing. After that we stayed in communication, sometimes she initiated others me,, and in more than one occasion I pushed it maybe further in that need to communicate daily (I know very afc), the dates kept going approximately 5 more and some escalating was done, I did not push completely for sex in the beginning since many of my previous experiences with other women we had sex fast and then for different reasons things didn’t work out, I wanted to show this girl that I wanted something serious and I didn't show I was desperate for sex but I did escalate. In between of all these dates most of the initiating was done by me to go out and she would 90 percent of the time agree and even further we would go 50/50 to pay; however, I got tired of me always initiating to meet something she wouldn’t do. Therefore; I went no contact and stopped communication. When I stopped, she would get in touch with me with stupid things like saying hi or asking me something about me once in a while and I kept my position.
Then she stopped communicating as well and a month or so went by with no communication and yesterday I decided to send her a text saying that I didn’t know what happened but I wanted to say hi and hoping everything was well and she answered that she didn't know either and was as well hoping I was fine. I told her I would like to have a coffee with her she answered she would love to and we agreed for Wednesday.
I'm not sure now how to act or if it has been the right thing, acknowledging that she does not have a bf, she has acted different than many women in the way always thinking about paying her part in our dates, she is also very independent, very dedicated to her job and goes to school which is very important for me in terms of a woman I want for a LTR. But that pride part or waiting for my initiation most of the time is what has bothered me. I would appreciate your input.